Two months in...just busy or losing interest?

[hockeycpa]

So I met my current girlfriend through a mutual friend in the middle of June. We both hit it off because we’re both accountants. She just graduated and was starting at a Big 4 firm in September, and we both were studying for the CPA exam (I've been working since October 2011). We dated for about a month and a half and then became official in the beginning of August. At first she was hesitant, as she told me a previous boyfriend had all of a sudden just stopped talking to her at one point and then started dating another girl a couple weeks later. She said everything was good and she didn’t have to worry about me ignoring her and I always answer her texts and she doesn’t have to worry about where I am. She told me she really likes me and nobody has ever been as nice to her as I was, and that she’s just scared, but eventually agreed, and told me to promise her that I “wouldn’t change.”

 

So throughout August and the first week of September, we would text everyday throughout the day and talk on the phone at least every other day. She hadn’t started her job yet and was just studying for her tests all day long. We would see each other at least once a week (since we were both busy with me working and studying and her still having to study) and sometimes more than that. Most of the times when we would see each other it would just be at each other’s place, watching a movie or tv and just snuggling, with frequent make-out sessions. No sex yet, which isn’t that big of a deal. She would always say how great I am and would ask me if I was happy in the relationship. She would tell me to make sure to tell her if anything was bothering me, and she wanted to make sure I was happy so she wouldn’t lose me. We would both call each other little pet names and hold hands and text goodnight and do all the things that are done in the honeymoon phase of the relationship.

 

Now, since she’s started her job (second week of September), she’s changed a bit. She doesn’t text during the day, which I understand because of her job. And even though she just started they put her right to work and she’s had to work late a couple of nights, and when she gets home she has to study (she only has one more test to pass). She does call like every other day, but just quickly like on her ride home, and then I don’t hear from her the rest of the night. She would always say that she misses me and would be excited to see me. Now, if I ask her if she wants to go out or hang out she’s says how she feels like she’s not getting enough studying in and needs to study and she can’t get hang out. I’ll text her a sweet message every now and then and she’ll just say “thanks” or something else and not respond like she used to. When she texts me she’ll only give me updates on how her work and day is going and not say like little sweet things she used to say.

 

I know I’m probably overthinking this but I feel like she’s losing interest. I know she’s really busy with her new job and studying, but I feel like she’s not appreciating me and not talking to me like she used to. We’re in a relationship and if she felt the same way I do towards her I would think she would show a little more interest in me on trying to see me (we haven’t seen each other in two weeks) and create a little more time for me. Text me while you’re taking a break from studying or during lunch break, especially since we don’t see each other that often. She is a perfectionist and does get upset while studying if she doesn’t get something, so I can understand. She does take her test in a week so I’ll see if she changes then.

 

I don’t know, like I said I’m probably just overthinking this and and she’s just really, genuinely busy. But her gradual change in attitude from showing that she cares about me to having me pretty much take a backseat to her work and studying has me wondering if she’s busy or if she’s losing interest or just doesn’t have time for a relationship now. But it just annoys me how she told me not to change and yet she has changed.

 

Am I just overthinking this?