naomii Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 I met this guy almost 3 years ago. I almost wish i never met him at this point. January this year he told me he wanted to see where things could go with us. A few months later, he says he cant give 100% to a relationship right now because he wants to "figure out his career/life" first. We kept seeing eachother even though we werent official. We acted like a couple. He recently found out about me going to a bar with one of my guy friends. It happened months ago. Ever since then hes been acting different. He says that im a hypocrite because id freak out if he were to go out to a bar with a girl, which i would because i want a relationship with him-- he doesnt want one with me. He even told me to date other guys if i wanted to and he wouldnt hold it against me, which i didnt do because i wanted no one but him. We met up to "talk" a few days ago. He made me call my guy friend to prove that were just friends (is my guess). Then he kept bringing him up the whole time we hung out. I dont know why hed be so jealous when he didnt want me in the first place. We eneded up talking and i thought things had gotten worked out, he left my place on good terms, or so i thought. He was holding me like he used to, everything seemed to be back to how it was. The past two nights hes been sending me very immature texts. He's intentionally trying to make me jealous now. He said "i went to a bar tonight with a girl. She got me drunk. :)" I told him "thats nice im sure she had to pay for everything" (hes broke with no job right now so i know hes just lying). Why is he doing this? He knows i want him, i thought we had made up, so why is he trying to make me jealous now? Especially when hes the one that didnt want a relationship?
SmileFace Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 The question is why are you sticking around for this/his crap? 2
Author naomii Posted September 29, 2012 Author Posted September 29, 2012 Im not, ive started to ignore him. Just wanted to know why hes trying to make me jealous.
TaraMaiden Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 Im not, ive started to ignore him. Just wanted to know why hes trying to make me jealous. Because it seems, he thinks he can. Never try to second guess the motives of an ex-. Ask them, and you'll never get the truth - either because they have been caught out, and don't want to admit it, or because - and this is more usual - they haven't got a clue, themselves. And even if they give you one answer, chances are, it would change tomorrow.... never ask - "Why do they....?" Always think - "What do I do now?" And the response is always the same. Ignore it.
Quiet Storm Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 Im not, ive started to ignore him. Just wanted to know why hes trying to make me jealous. The whys don't really matter. He could be insecure. Or trying to get you back because you made him feel jealous unintentionally. Or threatened by your guy friend. Maybe he needs some attention. Or reassurance. Or he's socially awkward and doesn't know when to shut up. Maybe he just wanted to see if it would bother you, to gauge how much you care. Maybe he was bored and thinks it fun to get a rise out of people. The possibilities are endless... It doesn't matter what his motivations are. Just write him off as incompatible. You know that you deserve better than a guy who acts like this, right?
Author naomii Posted September 30, 2012 Author Posted September 30, 2012 The whys don't really matter. He could be insecure. Or trying to get you back because you made him feel jealous unintentionally. Or threatened by your guy friend. Maybe he needs some attention. Or reassurance. Or he's socially awkward and doesn't know when to shut up. Maybe he just wanted to see if it would bother you, to gauge how much you care. Maybe he was bored and thinks it fun to get a rise out of people. The possibilities are endless... It doesn't matter what his motivations are. Just write him off as incompatible. You know that you deserve better than a guy who acts like this, right? Yes, thank you. I know i deserve better. It just hurts to love someone that plays with your emotions. I have quite a long past with him and he doesnt treat me good at all, yet i love him? Or i just think i do. I dont know anymore.
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