thembones Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 Broken up to 2 months, No Contact for about a month now. I had a series of 4 signs happen to me within the same day (last week) that were just NOT NORMAL. 1. On lunch break at work, Jeopardy came on. It was a show me and my ex watched daily and loved. I have never seen that show on at my lunch and did not even know it was on that time of day. 2. During Jeopardy, a commercial for her company came on and they rarely even have commercials that I have noticed; and never saw during Jeopardy. 3. I work where I make phone calls to businesses. The first business I called after lunch was called "Care For Her." 4. A woman (from a dating site) that I had been messaging online told me she was leaving for Portland, Oregon that same night. That is the place my ex ALWAYS talked about and wants (wanted us) to move there some day soon. I know it probably is just some strange occurrences, but seriously it threw me for a loop. I don't know if it meant anything, but it may be possible I guess. I am not holding my breath on it, but they just kept mounting and it became downright creepy. I don't know what I am asking, but maybe if someone has an opinion or a similar case. Thanks.
january2011 Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 It can be argued that everything is interconnected. Sometimes we don't notice unless we become especially sensitive to certain cues. You can take these as coincidences and marvel at the mysterious workings of the universe or you can try to interpret them as some kind of message for you to take action. To be honest, I don't think it really matters either way.
Calico Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 Michael Shermer, in one of his books, wrote: "Humans are pattern-seeking, story-telling animals, and we are quite adept at telling stories about patterns, whether they exist or not." 3
Author thembones Posted September 29, 2012 Author Posted September 29, 2012 Thank you for the replies. Maybe it was a sign to act, but more likely it was probably not a sign at all but just a coincidence. And if it were a sign to act, I could not take that chance and put myself in a situation destine to fail. I would not have even thought about it if it were one thing, but the series is just amazing to me.. and it all happened in half a day.
KatZee Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 This happened to me a few weeks after the split with my ex. First my mother chose to go out to a restaurant that my ex had first met my parents at. Then the hostess sat us at the exact same table when we could have sat anywhere. Then when every sat down the seat I was left with was the one my ex had sat in. Then another party came in and sat at the table right next to us, and the mans name was the exact same name as my ex. (Not a very common name either.) I think there was one more thing, having to do with a song that came on overhead, but it was NUTS. I was convinced it was a sign from something higher telling me not to give up, to be strong... but nothing ever came of it. In fact what happened is that we had a HUGE falling out and I'd be surprised if we ever spoke again.
Author thembones Posted September 29, 2012 Author Posted September 29, 2012 In fact what happened is that we had a HUGE falling out and I'd be surprised if we ever spoke again. So you thought it meant for you to reach out and it backfired? Was your series of events the reason you decided to reach out to him? He was the one who broke it off with you? It is strange how things happen and I just really think it meant she was thinking about me a lot more than usual. Not that I think it would make her want to get back together, but at least thinking about it. Thanks for your story and reply.
LostOne1 Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 mines is the opposite.. I've had signs lately saying this break up HAS to happen. Movie theatre me and my ex ALWAYS went to.. closed down a week after our break up. My friends who I alienated due to my ex wanting me all to herself. They randomly msg me the week of the breakup... they had no idea what was going on. But its like they texted me and contacted me at a time of need. There are a few other things that happened, but all leading to the fact that I was SUPPOSED to lose her now. And it's tough, because I didn't want that and still don't. But it's like fate is telling me to go in a different path and it wont let me go back to get my ex. Like it's pushing me away from her and saying there is ANOTHER path for you and your ex can't share that road with you now. Your guys road together ends NOW and here. The rest of it is me walking on my own journey now. And that's tough and scary, because for 3 years we walked together in this journey and did everything together good times and bad, we helped each other. Now she's gone.. feels like my support is gone, like it's ALL on my shoulders now, I can't even the load because she isn't here anymore... it's scary... very scary. Shows how I lost my independance to her.. and how dependant I became of her. Sadly she was always independant, so for her moving on is easy. She always said she had to do things in life on her own... so shes tough to make it. I just hope I can make it too now.
Author thembones Posted September 30, 2012 Author Posted September 30, 2012 And that's tough and scary, because for 3 years we walked together in this journey and did everything together good times and bad, we helped each other. Now she's gone.. feels like my support is gone, like it's ALL on my shoulders now, I can't even the load because she isn't here anymore... it's scary... very scary. Shows how I lost my independance to her.. and how dependant I became of her. Sadly she was always independant, so for her moving on is easy. She always said she had to do things in life on her own... so shes tough to make it. I just hope I can make it too now. I am in your exact same boat as you (3 years even), except the fact that I did not lost my independence; If I lost that I would be in trouble. I am okay with everything and all the love I had for her, is turning sour. I will always love her, but when she does realize she fked up, I am not going to be there like she thinks. My ex is also independent and she is moving on just fine, planning trips and doing all the things she "couldn't" do with me. You will be fine man. I had major issues for a bit, but now I am at 2 months out of the relationship. Make yourself better! It is all you can really do. You can't move on when you're looking in the rear-view mirror. I still do not like it or approve, but I cannot force someone to do something they do not want to do. If she wants something, she will contact me. We live 3 minutes from each other, but I have been actively avoiding seeing ANYTHING to do with her and it is really helping. I just fear the day when I see her with someone else. That will be hard but I know it is coming. Best of luck LostOne.
suladas Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 That's crazy i've had it to. It might not seem weird, but since the BU i've ran into my ex 3 times at the grocery store in only 2 months, we are neighbors so it's not something crazy, but the crazy thing is in the year living next door to each other prior to going out we never once seen each other anywhere. Now since, i'm always running into her driving really close to home to. I know it's not a sign or anything, it's just frustrating to always be seeing her.
NoMoreJerks Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 I don't believe in signs, if that's what you're asking. Red flags, on the other hand.... yes.
suladas Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 mines is the opposite.. I've had signs lately saying this break up HAS to happen. Movie theatre me and my ex ALWAYS went to.. closed down a week after our break up. My friends who I alienated due to my ex wanting me all to herself. They randomly msg me the week of the breakup... they had no idea what was going on. But its like they texted me and contacted me at a time of need. There are a few other things that happened, but all leading to the fact that I was SUPPOSED to lose her now. And it's tough, because I didn't want that and still don't. But it's like fate is telling me to go in a different path and it wont let me go back to get my ex. Like it's pushing me away from her and saying there is ANOTHER path for you and your ex can't share that road with you now. Your guys road together ends NOW and here. The rest of it is me walking on my own journey now. And that's tough and scary, because for 3 years we walked together in this journey and did everything together good times and bad, we helped each other. Now she's gone.. feels like my support is gone, like it's ALL on my shoulders now, I can't even the load because she isn't here anymore... it's scary... very scary. Shows how I lost my independance to her.. and how dependant I became of her. Sadly she was always independant, so for her moving on is easy. She always said she had to do things in life on her own... so shes tough to make it. I just hope I can make it too now. People break down when no one's around. And a relationship can be much worse then other things. I am normally an extremely cold person, family and friends tell me it and I know it well. I rarely feel sorry for people or anything and sad stuff just doesn't phase me. Heck, I had a family member die years ago and didn't shed a tear, it honestly didn't bother me. I was the same thing very independent, but the relationship changed that, I really liked having someone there something that i'm not use to wanting. But the BU brought a ton of tears from me. It was really crazy how hard it hit me and stopped me in my tracks.
youngnlove89 Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 I am soo glad I'm not the only one experiencing this! I thought it was crazy!! I work at a doctors office and answer a ton of phone calls everyday for scheduling. 80% of the patients calling share his name. Rob. It's either Rob, or Dr. Roberts, or the wife of a Rob. It's crazy! And now today, patients are calling with his date of birth! July 9th. What is this and why??! Is it because we notice it now?
suladas Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 I think a big part of it is noticing it now. Or maybe part of it is just a way of rubbing salt in the wound......
JayL Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 When my ex and I first started, she dropped the line "we're going too fast and I need space and time to think if we should continue on" during our first 2 weeks. The day after, I invited a friend to go to a weekend get away with us, she was going to fill the empty spot in the car that my ex was supposed to have. She responded that she can't make it that day and 5 minutes later, she said "you guys have future" , which is a typo and she corrected later on "you guys have fun". I thought it was a sign, I made a move, things continued on for another month with my ex girlfriend's insanely roller coaster emotions and approach towards the relationship. Exactly 29 days ago, we ended it, I could not stop the tears and she stood there playing with some green necklace and showed absolutely zero emotions. I walked away and she did not even look at me and just went straight to her house. An hour later I called her and asked if we could talk and her response was "I'm out with friends right now". Personally...I wouldn't rely on "signs" anymore... if I had walked away during the first 2 weeks, I may not have gotten laid, but I could have saved myself from getting way too attached with this heartless b*tch.
Coyoteloco Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 well its happening to me that it seems im always at the right place in the right time lately. I dont know if it had something to do with the breakup, but this really weird occurrences are happening to me all the time! Like being in the exact right place in the exact right time, a second later and it wouldnt have happened, its really weird but its fun. Dont know what this things mean but i guess its just good karma maybe?
Hawaii50 Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Thank you for the replies. Maybe it was a sign to act, but more likely it was probably not a sign at all but just a coincidence. And if it were a sign to act, I could not take that chance and put myself in a situation destine to fail. I would not have even thought about it if it were one thing, but the series is just amazing to me.. and it all happened in half a day. It's a sign that you're still very much in love with and care about her. Nothing wrong with that... Now go punish yourself by listening to Ace of Base's "I saw the sign" on repeat
bluefairy812 Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 same thing has been happening to me. i see my exe's name everywhere (didn't really used to happen before:( ) i see things he loves or things i know he would love i see places and things that meant alot to us. SUCKSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS. just ignore the signs!
Reegs Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 I think all these "signs" were there before. I think everyone on these boards is more apt to look for them now that the relationship is over. I think as time goes on....these "signs" that you currently seeing will still occur....but you wont associate them with your ex. Hang in there....it gets better with time! Just my two cents...
Author thembones Posted October 4, 2012 Author Posted October 4, 2012 I still do not know what to make of the "signs" I spoke of in the original post. She broke up with me 2 months ago and I have had many little things that remind me. Her car is way, way too common in the area because I see that model/year 3 times a day. I just thought maybe the compounding of things made it more than it actually was; just a lot of coincidences very close to each other, one making me notice the next. But at the same time, they were not just things passed/noticed when driving by. They were things that stared me right in the face and I really could not avoid. I am not holding my breath on anything, but I do still, to quote the Doors, "Love her madly - as she's walking out the door." I did have another weird event happen today. While on a smoke break at work, I noticed a flower petal on the ground. I had only ever seen these grow at the place where we used to live and could not find the plant that it came off of. Regardless, it was just a single petal on the middle of the sidewalk. What made it weird, is that this flower is on the front step of my apartment building, where I often smoke. When we first broke up, I used to pick these petals off the flower and rub them for the duration of time I was outside. It is soft and almost calming. Just the reminders of what was once I guess, but strange to me. Thanks for listening and all the replies. It is interesting to hear the similar occurrences that everyone else has had.
Recommended Posts