SushiX Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 Become a sloot and sleep around with as many people as you can. This is a lot better than wallowing in self pity and sex is great. It will also boost your self-esteem. And you might even meet the next love of your life this way. I hope this helps!
Calico Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 It wouldn't boost my self-esteem to use other people for cheap thrills. Besides, this is just as "efficient" as using other drugs to numb yourself, with the same results when the effect wears off. Then again, I may just be old-fashioned for only wanting to sleep with people I love. Mindless sex never did anything for me. Anyway, whatever works for you! 4
KatZee Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 Yeahhh... masking the pain of a breakup doesn't really work in the long-run... but like Calico said, whatever works! I tried this in college, and actually it didn't boost self-esteem, it made me feel even worse about myself, and I realized I was just cheapening myself. You don't find the love of your life by acting like a whore.
beyond Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 I'm still trying to work out what a sloot is!
LostOne1 Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 I;ll be honest.. I can't see myself touching another girl right now. I mean I'd just feel so uncomfortable sleeping with someone other than my ex. I mean I was so used to her touch and she knew me so well. I felt so comfy snuggled with her. I know that's gone, but I haven't fully healed which is why I have no desire to be with another women physically just yet. I think for me sex would not work and I'd just stop at some point or I'd feel horrible after it.
TaraMaiden Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 I'm still trying to work out what a sloot is! It's a slut with an extra slot. 1
LostOne1 Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 I;ll be honest.. I can't see myself touching another girl right now. I mean I'd just feel so uncomfortable sleeping with someone other than my ex. I mean I was so used to her touch and she knew me so well. I felt so comfy snuggled with her. I know that's gone, but I haven't fully healed which is why I have no desire to be with another women physically just yet. I think for me sex would not work and I'd just stop at some point or I'd feel horrible after it. I should add.. I'm not a man whore.. I've always been respectful towards myself and wouldn't sleep with a girl unless she loved me. Otherwise it's sex and nothing more. Thats why it worked with me and my ex, it wasn't sex, it was love. Just that we show it in a physical way rather than giving a gift or what have you. I don't know if shes with someone else now, but if she is, then I'd have no respect for her to break up with me and less than a month date someone else. Its a utter disrespect for love.
JayL Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 (edited) I hope you realize that by doing this you're only damaging your reputation and making it worse for yourself. It's no different than drowning yourself from alcohol every single day after a break up which damages your body. My last girlfriend, who is now my ex after admitting that she really never felt anything for me, has a record of sleeping around after her break up with her ex-boyfriend for 5 years who cheated on her. She was single for 5 years, but she slept with this guy, that guy, that other guy and this other guy and so on. I did not know this until later, which of course, I had accepted. Although, if it was another man, he would have ran for the hills as soon as they find that out. Give yourself "value" and don't just give it away just like that. You're making yourself look "easy" and just adds up to the reason why your ex decided to not stay with you. It's called self-respect. Sleeping around is just a way to degrade yourself. If prostitutes charge for sex and you don't, then what does that make you? Edited September 29, 2012 by JayL
River Rain Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 I thought about that. I mean, I never even had sex with my guy, we were long-distance and supposed to meet in a few months. I don't know that it's over with him because it's just been a wall of silence. My instinct is saying it's over, and I thought about going out to hook up with someone, just for the sheer feeling of being wanted. But I think that would make me feel worse after because he was going to be the first one in a long time. I'm like you LostOne1, it's all above love. 1
Minka333 Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 (edited) Sadly, when you truly loved someone there is no easy way out. We can all wish for that blue pill all we want but it's not gonna magically happen soon. These things are meant to make us grow. Whoever had it easy truly never lived at all. We have to go through that cycle again. Wash. Rinse. Repeat. Wash away sorrow.. Rinse the negative suds.. Repeat the process with someone new.. We just need the strength to cope with all the dirt and come out lighter, fresher and cleaner. Edited September 30, 2012 by Minka333
blue4life Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 Sadly, when you truly loved someone there is no easy way out. We can all wish for that blue pill all we want but it's not gonna magically happen soon. These things are meant to make us grow. Whoever had it easy truly never lived at all. We have to go through that cycle again. Wash. Rinse. Repeat. Wash away sorrow.. Rinse the negative suds.. Repeat the process with someone new.. We just need the strength to cope with all the dirt and come out lighter, fresher and cleaner. I'm going through rough times, and my best friend had said that to me "there is no easy way out" and I wish it was, I wish I was not living through it, sometimes I just feel I can't wait for it to be over. Thank you for writing it in such a beatiful way.
todreaminblue Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 Become a sloot and sleep around with as many people as you can. This is a lot better than wallowing in self pity and sex is great. It will also boost your self-esteem. And you might even meet the next love of your life this way. I hope this helps! Sometimes you have to take pity on yourself.As far as sleeping around to mend a broken heart....doesn't mend anything when you are causing hurt to others however much you feel it helps you(which it doesn't) if you have a conscience and feel emotions enough to break your heart, you will end up feeling regret breaking others which by the way might not break your heart but it does scar it just like you carry scars for people who have done wrong by you.... enough scars and it breaks easier next time you actually fall for someone..... sex is not a solvent..doesn't dissolve anything..especially scar tissue of the heart in fact it can kill a heart Making love is meant to be a bonding agent in a loving committed relationship...deb
HeavenOrHell Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 This is how it is with me and my partner and me and my ex, none of us into sex without love, sex without love doesn't work for us. Just wanted to add; I thought I'd never love or want sex with anyone again after my ex left after 18 years together, the thought repulsed me, but I was wrong, I am in a loving, happy relationship again, so don't give up hope, just let yourself heal from your last r/ship first, I know how painful it is, trust me. I should add.. I'm not a man whore.. I've always been respectful towards myself and wouldn't sleep with a girl unless she loved me. Otherwise it's sex and nothing more. Thats why it worked with me and my ex, it wasn't sex, it was love. Just that we show it in a physical way rather than giving a gift or what have you. I don't know if shes with someone else now, but if she is, then I'd have no respect for her to break up with me and less than a month date someone else. Its a utter disrespect for love.
beyond Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 It's a slut with an extra slot. LOL! Why is everyone taking this thread seriously?
witmadskilllz Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 I should add.. I'm not a man whore.. I've always been respectful towards myself and wouldn't sleep with a girl unless she loved me. Otherwise it's sex and nothing more. Thats why it worked with me and my ex, it wasn't sex, it was love. Just that we show it in a physical way rather than giving a gift or what have you. I don't know if shes with someone else now, but if she is, then I'd have no respect for her to break up with me and less than a month date someone else. Its a utter disrespect for love. My ex dumped me and 2 weeks after was already in a new relationship, they had sex and everything, and they're still going at it till this day while I remained NC for 2 years. They say that.. even through rebounds, sex is what helps make the bond stronger between the two despite how little love there was in the beginning. Sex is everything, who doesn't want more? Of course you'd do anything to stick with her/him for it and then everything goes from there..
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