CopingGal Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 No, I didn't mention a dog. I wish I did have one, but with my job, I work too much to enjoy an animal. I have a hamster. Yes, 33 years old and a cuddly hamster is my pet. It is almost embarrassing to admit that! It's just nice to have a life in my house other than a plant after I come home from a 12 hour shift. I am so sorry. You remind me of someone else on here and she has a dog. Sorry about that.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 I have been used up and thrown away like garbage recently more times than I care to admit with no clear understanding of why. First question: "Where's your father???" What kind of a person is/was he???? That's the direction to go for starters
Pacman Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Hmmm....nerds to me are definitely not a bad thing. Perhaps the wording was off. I just mean the guys who have more intellect than brawn. No offense meant. Why settle for either intellect or brawn? Why not find a guy that has both ? They do exist ya know. Don't settle.
Calico Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Haha! Thanks for smoothing it over I know what you're saying. I just meant that when I am ready, after I have done all of the work on myself (Hopefully not too much), perhaps getting away from the "typical" guy I go for might be worth some investigation. "Bad boys", eh? There are plenty of nerds that have the looks of "bad boys", but feature more gentle natures and perhaps a little more (spiritual) depth. From the perspective of a "nerd", though, let me just mention that the typical fate is to end up getting friend-zoned (being "too nice" ). In my 20s, I was much more of a "bad boy" and it was trivial to attract females (this sounds off) and I never actually found myself getting dumped. In the 30s, I mellowed and embraced the "nerdiness" more, looking for more than the delicious magic of unfolding romances, wanting substance and safety. The result? The tables turned. The attraction part was still easy, but somehow wanting more stability -- and thus subconsciously worrying about losing a partner? -- was and is counter-productive. 1
NoMoreJerks Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 No, I didn't mention a dog. I wish I did have one, but with my job, I work too much to enjoy an animal. I have a hamster. Yes, 33 years old and a cuddly hamster is my pet. It is almost embarrassing to admit that! It's just nice to have a life in my house other than a plant after I come home from a 12 hour shift. Hey now. Nothing wrong with hamsters. Not all pets have to be dogs or cats. Some of us aren't at home a lot, and we live on our own, so we can't keep a dog, however much we want to. Also, in my case, my building does not allow dogs (and I believe all pets more generally), and I don't plan to move any time soon. I am considering getting a chinchilla.
Author caligirl23 Posted October 2, 2012 Author Posted October 2, 2012 First question: "Where's your father???" What kind of a person is/was he???? That's the direction to go for starters My father was a wonderful man, but he is off-limits in this talk
Author caligirl23 Posted October 2, 2012 Author Posted October 2, 2012 Hey now. Nothing wrong with hamsters. Not all pets have to be dogs or cats. Some of us aren't at home a lot, and we live on our own, so we can't keep a dog, however much we want to. Also, in my case, my building does not allow dogs (and I believe all pets more generally), and I don't plan to move any time soon. I am considering getting a chinchilla. Haha! Thanks! I love that little furball.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 My father was a wonderful man, but he is off-limits in this talk Ladies and gentlemen, we have an answer!!! Another Loveshack puzzle solved. Note to caligirl23: Why not start up another thread only when you're really ready to understand yourself??
Author caligirl23 Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 Ladies and gentlemen, we have an answer!!! Another Loveshack puzzle solved. Note to caligirl23: Why not start up another thread only when you're really ready to understand yourself?? How about you respect the fact that my father passed away last year and this is a difficult time for me????? *******
Author caligirl23 Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 Also, bringing up somebody's parents/sisters/children or other family members into a post without knowing anything about them is incredibly disrespectful. Acting as if you have some ultra-knowlege about them, in additon, is just moronic. I kindly stated my family if off-limits in this talk. The polite thing to have done would be to accept that and back off, not write some condescending, sarcasm-laced retort. Go read somebody else's blog and stir up trouble there.
CopingGal Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Also, bringing up somebody's parents/sisters/children or other family members into a post without knowing anything about them is incredibly disrespectful. Acting as if you have some ultra-knowlege about them, in additon, is just moronic. I kindly stated my family if off-limits in this talk. The polite thing to have done would be to accept that and back off, not write some condescending, sarcasm-laced retort. Go read somebody else's blog and stir up trouble there. Ouch. Caligirl I'm sorry your dad passed away. But I think the poster was just trying to help. The ex before my most recent ex was like my dad. My dad was a bad father and a terrible husband to my mom. I have tons of issues because of him. My most recent ex was JUST like my father and when I saw that, I got out. Yep, I broke that cycle. I kicked my ex's butt to the curb. He was the worst boyfriend I ever had.
Author caligirl23 Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 Ouch. Caligirl I'm sorry your dad passed away. But I think the poster was just trying to help. The ex before my most recent ex was like my dad. My dad was a bad father and a terrible husband to my mom. I have tons of issues because of him. My most recent ex was JUST like my father and when I saw that, I got out. Yep, I broke that cycle. I kicked my ex's butt to the curb. He was the worst boyfriend I ever had. Sorry, but it's the nasty message after the initial one that I could do without. Not necessary. I was polite and stated a fact- my dad is off limits. That should have been the end of it. That theory that a woman had "daddy issues" if she finds herself in bad relationships is not always the case. Mine was a saint, so there are no issues here in regards to that. I asked for people's input, so they have a right to voice their opinions, but I have zero tolerance for talks about my family.
Author caligirl23 Posted October 4, 2012 Author Posted October 4, 2012 Thank you all so much for your input and support. I am feeling much better now that I have some clarity...
kalaslsl Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 But, as kind hearted as I am, I sure am wishing some bad karma on this guy. I have been nothing but good to him and just cannot understand how he or some people in general can sleep at night knowing they are liars and do things to intentionally hurt people that don't deserve it I feel exactly the same way. I never wished bad on anyone until my ex GF dumped me. The cruel and cowardly way she did it, all the lies and how she played me has made me feel this way.
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