All ties are finally broken and it's time to move on

[k100danny]

Anyone who has read my post will know my story so far.

 

Quick catch up on what has happened since, since my ex contacted me sayign she would be back in the country for a while and she wanted to see me, give me back my watch and stuff and we had the chat on the phone she has been to england.

 

We did not meet up which I am quite glad about, I'm sure she would have met me had i not questioned her about why she got in touch, why she said the only reason we spit up was because she went to italy, why she said she has never broken up with someone for no reason before, then proceeded to text about our sex life ect all the time knowing she was returning with her new boyfriend (i kind of knew she was seeing someone but never asked about it) I basically said I asked you to do ONE thing for me when we broke up, and I dont think it was a hard request after what i did for you and totally left you alone and that was to send my watch back to me so all ties were broken and i could move on.

 

anyway she did say she wanted to meet up but after this i knew there was very little chance of hearing from her again but she had agreed to leave my watch at her friends house if we didnt meet and i would collect it after she left. I didn't hear much from friends about her while she was here, a couple of people mentioned they had seen her, she actually walked right past my house with her new boyfriend (she had told me she didnt tell me he was coming because there was no chance of me seeing him as she doesnt live close to me and she woud hardly walk him near my house) and I also had another friend tell me she had asked for a guest list into a nightclub that i go to all the time with friends and she never does, he said i think she wanted me to tell you about it as she knows we are good friends and she doesnt really know him.

 

anyway after i knew she had left , i was going to leave it a week or so just to make sure she had gone but for someone reason a couple of days after I contacted her friend on the off chance and just asked if my watch had been left there and when it was a good time to collect it. she replied with yes its there, you will need to collect it this evening as i have now moved out, someone else has the keys and the house is getting cleared out tomorrow WTF!!! Is it really that hard just to send a message like i asked when you leave so i can collect it? so i went to collect it, just left on the bedside table, no note or anything.

 

It was strange being back in the house again and it did bring back a few memories, all this has totally changed my opinion of her though, after all this a little note with something written on like sorry i ddint post it back when you asked, in an envelope or something but no just left on the side with a BIG scratch across the watch face.

 

So after I get the watch back i text her saying this: I just thought id let you know i have been to pick up my watch, nobody contacted me about it to say it was ok to pick up and its a good job i did as i was going to leave it a week but when i turned up i found out the house was being cleared the next day. Anyway we have all of this out of the way so there is no need for us to be in contact again. Please dont reply there is nothing to say. take care

[LostOne1]

tough man.. gotta give you respect for being able to let her go. For me it still is tough to let go or ask for no reply.

 

Shows you know you have to move on and want to move on.

[k100danny]

after me sending the last message and saying we have NO reason to be in contact or speak again I get a text message this morning. I didn't read it. I don't know if she is just trying to have the last word or what but i really don't need to hear from her. the only reason i messaged her after retreviing my property was so that she knows i have it and also i was kind of mad that nobody had contacted me to collect it even though they knew the house would be cleared the next day and it could have gone missing and would have ended up somewhere that nobody could find it.

[Chi townD]

Kinda ballsy of her to be walking in front of your house with her new guy in tow. Even in one of your other threads, I mentioned you taking a trip during the time she was in town and you assured me that the chances of you running into her were slim due to the fact that you live in such a large area. And you find out that she went out of her way to take a stroll right in front of your house. Man, I can't imagine if you walked out of your place and saw the two of them......

 

 

What the hell was she thinking.

[k100danny]

My thoughts exactly. I mean there are lots of bars and restaurants near my house and it is a busy popular place but when i spoke to her on the phone she said the reason she didn't tell me he was coming was it's not as if she is going to be walking near my house with him. literally 15 yards away, There was a very good chance that i would see her and she knows this.

 

Maybe she thought that after I had found out then it wouldn't be a shock if i saw them together or something, While she was here she contacted a close friend of my to be put on the guestlist for a club she NEVER goes to but i do quite frequently, He said i havent spoken to her in over a year and i think she thought I would tell you. He did tell me but not until I next saw him and only because i was chatting to him about the whole thing or im sure he wouldnt have mentioned it. she also contacted someone else i know asking how she was doing ect, she apparently hates this girl yet I think she thought when she came back everything would be the same, people would be talking about her and what went on and that everyone would be so happy to see her and hear about her travels when in reality she may think wow i've grown and changed so much, what she probably doesnt realise is others lives have carried on too and they arent really that interested.

 

I have no idea why she made the fuss about seeing me and then didnt (well i do actually after i basically called her on everything) then to have no contact, just leave my watch with no note or no message telling me it was there and i had to pick it up before the movers came in to clear everything away. And then to text me 4 days later.

 

I had a lot of respect for this girl, everyone thinks they are the exception don't they in a relations (never felt like this before ect ect) even when we ended I just took it as we loved each other, it wasn't ever going to work out but we would be respectful toward each other. In the last couple of weeks I have completely U turned about her. I see all the bad stuff, see that someone who loved someone would not treat themm that way in a relationship and her actions after the relationship ends show no respect at all. I don't just mean getting into a new relationship straight away a week after telling me she still thought about me everyday I mean just her behaviour in general. She had the chance to just walk away and it be something that never worked out yet the way she has acted now has just dragged it out, made me see her in a whole new light and lose all respect for her.