beyond Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 (edited) Something has occurred to me more and more reading these posts on LS. Why do we always have to ‘blame’ someone for the break up? I read time and time again ‘he/she was a jerk’ etc – only tofind out the main crime committed was they had the audacity to break up with us! Of course some people act really badly, cheating, abuse etc,no excuse for that. But even then, if we stay and put up with it and then stillrage when it’s all over ‘he/she did this – we forget that we let them, and for that should take at least partial responsibility and learn never to take thatfrom anyone again. We are all responsible for our own happiness. If somebody doesn’t want to be with you, let them go. In anideal world everyone would have the grown up conversation and be completelyhonest about how they feel, but in the real world this doesn’t always happen.People are immature, don’t know themselves, confuse love with lust, areselfish, egotistical etc etc. So they go about things in the wrong way – usestupid excuses instead of the real reasons, act badly so we break up with thembecause they are too cowardly- and a million other different wrong ways. Butthe bottom line is…..they don’t want to be with us. Mostly, it’s not about us being a horrible person or them being a horrible person, just that we are bothnot right TOGETHER. Some guys talk with so much venom about the ‘whore’ thatleft them and is now with someone else. In fact it seems to be women are either portrayed as the ‘perfectamazing’ girlfriend or the ‘whore’. Can’t they just be people who make mistakeslike we all do? And yes, of course, women do the same too with the ‘all men are b*****ds’ stuff – but probably because I’m female I notice it more when it’sdirected against my sex! Just lets accept responsibility for our part in the break up, and let our egos go, just a little..... Edited September 29, 2012 by beyond
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