mpa Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 F*cking Adele. I was out to dinner with my best friend tonight, talking about our normal every day things, then Someone Like You came on at the restaurant. I've been avoiding this song as hard as possible since my ex broke up with me 4 months ago. I was hoping my friend would just keep telling the story she was telling even though it was kind of boring I had heard it before. Then she stopped talking and I started crying, thinking about the lyrics and how they applied to my life and my ex. The waiter came by with napkins and asked if the song was upsetting me and he turned down the music. WTF. Only Someone Like You can ruin an otherwise normal, happy evening. In general I feel like I'm doing so much better. I still think about him more than I would like but it only upsets me once or twice a week. But sometimes out of nowhere I'll get a memory and it will set me back a bit. I used to embrace it and just allow myself to feel. Now I'm just tired of thinking about him. The waiter got a generous tip.
Author mpa Posted September 29, 2012 Author Posted September 29, 2012 Totally her fault. Didn't she know, two years ago, how this would effect me now? Selfish.
NoMoreJerks Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 ah, yes. I have stopped listening to her songs in general, and that song in particular... i mean, it's kinda addictive because it's how i feel.. but it doesn't help with the moving-on thing..
beyond Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 F*cking Adele. I was out to dinner with my best friend tonight, talking about our normal every day things, then Someone Like You came on at the restaurant. I've been avoiding this song as hard as possible since my ex broke up with me 4 months ago. I was hoping my friend would just keep telling the story she was telling even though it was kind of boring I had heard it before. Then she stopped talking and I started crying, thinking about the lyrics and how they applied to my life and my ex. The waiter came by with napkins and asked if the song was upsetting me and he turned down the music. WTF. Only Someone Like You can ruin an otherwise normal, happy evening. In general I feel like I'm doing so much better. I still think about him more than I would like but it only upsets me once or twice a week. But sometimes out of nowhere I'll get a memory and it will set me back a bit. I used to embrace it and just allow myself to feel. Now I'm just tired of thinking about him. The waiter got a generous tip. I can totally relate to this......the song, everything. I heard her sing it at The Brits last year and it was one of the reasons I decided to finally answer one of my ex's emails and wish him well with his new life without me. Certain songs, places, smells will always trigger memories, its how much we allow that to take over our emotions that is the key. It isn't that gradually we get less and less emotional about it (and I'm speaking as a very emotional person!) - it's more, like a 'wave' that sometimes takes you completely unaware and washes over you drenching you in memories and sentiment when you were quite happily paddling in calm waters a moment or so before! Sometimes it s good to feel the pain and explore why you happen to feel so upset at that time. - eg. I felt really upset last week, after having a lovely evening with friends and hardly thinking of my ex. I had a real urge to contact him and it would have been sooooo easy. I sat with the feeling for a bit and realised I had been surrounded by happy couples that night and missed for a moment being with 'somebody' - not particularly my ex - just 'somebody' who gets me. As soon as I realised that, I was calm again. I learnt a bit of a tip about crying many years ago when my mother died. (Obviously, nothing wrong with crying, just sometimes you don't always want to show your emotion or ruin your make up lol!) If you clench your fist and dig your nails into your palm, it can temporarily stop the tears coming - can come in handy at times! xx
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