Dessembrae Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 It's Been three months since my last relationship that left me nothing short of a mess. The ex and I have been NC and I was finally ready to get out there and start dating again, or so i thought... I decided to give OLD a try, figured it couldn't hurt and believe it or not i met someone I was interested in. After talking for a while online and really enjoying it I gave her my number and told her to txt me if she was interested. The next day she txt'ed me, we really hit it off and decided too meet up. We made plans to get together for a milkshake, just something casual to get a feel for each other and it went great, we made plans after to go to a pub that night. When she told me the name of the pub I was a little hesitant at first, there's several of them in the city and my ex work's at one, which i would have declined going to had it been her's. Fortunately it wasn't and my date and her co-worker picked me up and we headed down. When we arrived we went up to the bar to order our first round or drinks, I looked around to see if i knew anyone there and lo and behold there was my ex... This completely blind sided me, I even started shaking a little but tried to relax. My ex saw me standing at the bar and I could tell she was a little shocked herself looking like a deer in the headlights but came over and said hi, we made small talk and after giving her a hug and telling her it was nice seeing her she went back to her friends. My date noticed I was a little off and asked if I was alright which I told her i was and the three of us went outside onto the patio to talk. We had a really great time all night, I really got along with my date and her co-worker and the three of us ended up drinking way too much, because after the bar and going back to her place where we continued drinking, doing shots of tequila I ended up blacking out. The next day looking at my txts I noticed something had gone very wrong. I guess after blacking out all the stress from seeing my ex came out and I acted like a complete tool and said some not too nice things. I called my date apologizing for everything that happened, told her there was no excuse for how i acted and if I was her I would want nothing to do with me ever again and that i would leave her alone. After talking for a but she totally caught me off guard by saying she understood and offered me a second chance, which i absolutely did not deserve. Two days later we go out again, this time i avoid alcohol like its the plague, we have a great night out on the town and then head back to my place where we were up till 3am laying together talking, telling each other stories about our lives growing up...everything. Before she leaves we share a very passionate kiss and she heads home. The next day i wake up to a txt from her and we spend the whole day talking, she invited me over that night for a movie but I was working a night shift so i apologized and told her i couldn't. Today we talked again until she tells me that the night of our first date after i had left she had called her sister about what happened and her sister was not too impressed, the after telling her sister that she was still seeing me her sister had been very upset and didnt want her seeing me anymore, that her family came first and couldn't choose me over them. I completely understood, fact was i was still surprised i even got the second date, I tell her it's ok that i wouldn't ask her to put me before her family, that I really enjoyed meeting her and I wished her all the best. Only thing i can figure is this caught her off guard because she turns right around and starts telling me she still wants to see me and that we can still cuddle and everything but we can't "see each other" she even invited me over to her house after work to spend the night with her, when i ask her wouldn't that be exactly what her family just told they didn't want she says "yeah I guess but they will forget eventually" Well i had just gotten out of a relationship with way too much head games involved and I was not going to go down this road with this girl now. I told her it probably wasn't a good idea, that she had a choice to make, unfortunately not a great choice, but one none the less which she should stick to. I guess that wasn't what she wanted because I'm still getting txt's from her telling me how much she loves hanging out with me and wants us to be friends, I just think this is one I'll be walking away from.
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