LoveHurts88 Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 Almost 3 months since my ex broke it off with me. Sometime I get this weird feeling that she wants to contact me and still has feelings for me but won't for some reason. Weird feeling/Gut-Feeling because it's been 2 weeks NC. We haven't talked but for those who know that we play those games together before, and I said she hasn't tipped me or anything well couple of days ago she did and she even left a wall message... Don't tell me I shouldn't play those games etc, because I know what you guys are going to say she's stringing me along etc. I play those games because I want to. Doesn't phase me really that she messaged me. One more question, if you see her friend at a place, will she know about it?
Calico Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 It's called "projecting one's own feelings on someone else", also known as "wishful thinking". After three months, it's time to move out of the denial stage.
DavidG Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 I wish I could tell you what you want to here but it is just that, wishful thinking. She may come back. Every situation is different but the outcomes are usually fairly similar. NC is for you to heal and is honestly the best chance that you have to get back your girl. I'm in the same situation man, its hard as **** but reality is reality. Don't fall for breadcrumbs bro. It'll only hurt you more in the end. Stick with the game plan. Words mean nothing really. If she acts on it you'll know. Don't over analyse the small stuff.
Author LoveHurts88 Posted September 29, 2012 Author Posted September 29, 2012 I know what you guys mean. When we were together I could read her mind of what she wanted, what she wanted to do/eat etc. without her saying anything... And my gut-feelings were pretty damn accurate... I don't know I have a feeling because I told her not to msg me so she's not going to and she's stubborn as hell...
DavidG Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 Time brother, all you can do is give it time. If she is going to come around, the best odds are with NC. She is going to have to see what its like without you. Its a 50/50 chance that she will be back. The problem is is that the 50 that you don't want to here about will crush you again if you wait around. Better yourself, go to the gym,etc..and if it is meant to be it will be. ****, go out and hit on random girls. If she does come back and "she's the one" you'll never be able to do that again! Just concentrate on healing and as much as it sucks push through with NC. She will notice and soon enough you will have an answer.
NoMoreJerks Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 wishful thinking. i know the feeling, but you are not helping yourself right now. just move on. if she comes back, she comes back, and you can make up your mind as to whether you will take her back. Otherwise, you should just move on and not play this waiting/guessing game.
Author LoveHurts88 Posted September 29, 2012 Author Posted September 29, 2012 Sigh, wishful thinking it probably is just that. I have been in NC for 2 weeks now.. Sometimes I really believe she misses me and misses us now that I'm gone but I won't know unless she reaches out
LostOne1 Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 I thought like you guys.. but the fact is your gonna drive yourself crazy like I am with myself. If she hasnt contacted you.. its over. Why waste time thinking about the ex? Ya maybe you miss your ex, but there is NO point in thinking about what they must be feleing. Because you WONT and CANT know what they are feeling. Maybe they do miss you, maybe they moved on and don't feel much, maybe they dont feel anything at all. But at the end of the day... it's over. It's really hard to accept that, because rejection hurts. It makes you feel like you're bad or something must be wrong with you. And it's possible something is wrong. Thats what NC does.. helps you see yourself for who you are and work on what you didn't do well enough. False hope hurts trust me. I waited 30 days of NC thinking I'd get through it and my ex would contact me. Well guess what.. NOTHING.. I'm dead to her. And it hurts more to go through a month and realize the person doesn't give a damn. Don't let it happen to you. Just assume it's over and thats the best way to move on. Wishful thinking will bring more pain because you put your life on hold for something that may never happen.
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