BlindBlindman Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 (edited) I'm going crazy, my gf of 3 months broke up with me and i've been precticing the NC rule for a month. Summary: -I chatted her up in an airport, not to be a dick but I travel a lot and this is where I usually meet women, we had an instant connection, better connection than others I have dated. -Small world, we were both flying to the same town for the same wedding she was related to the bride and me on the groom's side. We didnt get to talk much there but on the return trip, I met her again in the airport and so happened we sat very close to each other on the plane. -I left the country for work and we were constantly communicating, quit my job and moved back, and a week later we were exclusive. -During our time together we were very sexually active. I have to admit I was kinda distant during our relationship because of work (still travel alot for my new job), and I know she felt it, as she kept telling me that she loves me more than I love her and that I would be the one to break her heart. -Thing started to get better, I spent more time with her, we went on dates everytime we had a chance, i was crazy about her! -Suddenly out of the blue, she broke up with me while I was on a business trip. Something about how we were "too fast", and we should take a break and get too know each other better, something about how she was too easy and we should start from scratch and that we werent exclusive anymore. -I was hurt and initiated the no contact rule, We had the NC for a month, I was dating other girls already but I am still crazy about her, I broke the NC rule and things were going great but she suddenly felt kinda distant, and stopped replying to me a few days ago, especially after she found out I was leaving the country again for another trip. I didn't want to be too clingy so I stopped bothering her. -Her friends say she feels insecure whenever I leave the country, I was notorious for leaving the country on weekends and partying my ass off. Did I screw up by breaking the NC rule? Should I just get over her and move along? I'm still crazy about her and haven't really felt this way in my other past relationships. One thing keeps popping in my head though, did I get played? -we never fought during our time together -she's from a very conservative family Edited September 29, 2012 by BlindBlindman
salem mark Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 stay nc let her come to you, she may not I'm going thru the same thing (see my post)
xoxo26 Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 I live and been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now. I love him to death but he has a tendency to become controlling and jealous. We constantly argue until I broke up with him, but gotten back together in less than a week since I could not bear to see him sad. He has become a very important part of my life..the thing is, he has a very high sex drive and wanted to makeup right away. I told him not to rush things as I am still processing the hurt and hatred that I felt as a result of always fighting with him, and more so with the break up. How can I get him to understand that i need more time before I can just jump in bed with him? Can girls out there relate to my situation?
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 This just happened to me, 2 months together (basically lived together) and out of the blue she says "I want to be single". The same day she ended it she joined a dating site. It's hard to swallow for me as well but some people just care less than you do or you hoped they did. At one point she looked at your relationship and said "I can do better" (same with mine). As far as screwing up the NC rule to get her back I say yes. NC is ultimately for getting over her and improving yourself. A side effect sometimes is they miss you and realize the grass isn't always greener. When you contacted her and re-entered her life on your terms the "side effect" hadn't fully come to fruition. Again she decided "I can do better", and now has 2 occasions when she felt that about your relationship, more evidence in her mind. Return to NC fully without any expectation of her coming back! So yes, begin the process of moving on. It sucks man I know, I feel like I just lost "the one", but right now it's out of our hands. If she comes back hopefully you'll remember her leaving twice and not take her back. Good luck to you.
kalaslsl Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 It does sound like you got played. Just follow the advice posted here and maintain NC
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