metal921 Posted September 28, 2012 Posted September 28, 2012 Im going to make this long story short. Me and my gf broke up about 3-4 weeks ago over my jealous rage. (I know I Know really bad) I told her its over and she got mad and there. We have broken up about 2 times before and now it seems like the real deal. I miss her greatly. I have tried about 3-4 times to talk to her but to no avail. Right now I am really tring to look at myself and see the good and the bad points about myself and work on my jealous issues but I still want this girl back. I feel like there is this empty hole inside my heart without her. I dont know how I can show her I want to change without her wanting to talk to me! AHh man..
Mike_d Posted September 28, 2012 Posted September 28, 2012 you dont show by talk, you show by actions
Author metal921 Posted September 28, 2012 Author Posted September 28, 2012 I know but how can I if she doesnt even want to see me?
Mike_d Posted September 28, 2012 Posted September 28, 2012 you can't then. all you can do is fix yourself so that you don't pull this crap again in the future and hopefully learn your lesson and not hurt someone else
Author metal921 Posted September 28, 2012 Author Posted September 28, 2012 I hurt her so bad man. I wish I could have seen this coming but in my mind I didnt. I regret my actions. What about in the future when her emotions are calmed? can i try to show her then? i know it can take months weeks years
Mike_d Posted September 28, 2012 Posted September 28, 2012 that's not up to you now. you can't "want" your way to a solution, it takes 2 and if she isn't going to open the door to you then there is nothing you can do with regards to her. sucks, but sounds like your actions did too. but good that you recognize you need help, so now what are you going to do about it? Can't control the future, can only deal with the now. And yes, it will prob take quite a bit of time for you to make the changes, but as noted earlier it's not like you have much of a choice, you need to do this for you, damaged people hurt people. take care of your issues first before you damage someone else I'm sorry this happened for you, know it's hard. hang in there, you can start doing the right things today going forward
Author metal921 Posted September 28, 2012 Author Posted September 28, 2012 Well first I am starting to take therapy because I have never been in this situation in my life before and I need help coping. We were together for two years and she took all my bs but she got sick of it and I am 100% sure that if I show her a change then she will come back. What I am doing is just trying to relax and trying to do other things. Tonight I will go out with friends but shes going to be there also, my plan is to relax and if she says hi then ill say hi. I want to talk to her but I dont think it is a good idea. Right now shes probably trying to get over me and is probably hurting so I do not want to hurt her even further by trying to talk to her. Imma play it cool.
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