jacks24 Posted September 28, 2012 Posted September 28, 2012 My boyfriend and I broke up in June due to mistakes that I had made, and is now unsure if he can trust me. I've apologized for the things I've done, and he said he forgives me, but I know he really doesnt. I don't blame him. I treated him horribly... Why do we do these things to the ones we love? Long story short, I'm still living with him, and a couple weeks ago told him I was going to be moving out, because it's just too hard. I know I did wrong, and I know I love him... it seems like im trying to make it right but its not getting anywhere. Well, once I told him that I was leaving in two weeks, he was in utter shock. I assumed he'd be ok with it being that he said we weren't getting back together and that he needed time. So for the past couple weeks we've been spending a lot of time together, talking about things, and even making love. We have even told each other that we love each other... it's all so confusing. I even got to the point of just asking him if he wanted me to stay, and he said that he wants me to, but that we need this time apart. I don't know. I just dont want to be too hopeful. Is that even possible? Help?!
JayL Posted September 28, 2012 Posted September 28, 2012 (edited) Trust is like a glass, once it's broken, you can glue the pieces back together but it will never be the same again. I have been cheated on, lied to, etc. While my ex and I managed to work things out, it was just never the same again and we still broke up a few months later. I hope you learned your lesson. Edited September 28, 2012 by JayL 1
JayL Posted September 28, 2012 Posted September 28, 2012 I didn't cheat on him. It's the trust that's cracked. He either lives with it or lets everything go and be with you.
Author jacks24 Posted September 28, 2012 Author Posted September 28, 2012 His words exactly were... That he wants this to work, but he needs time to heal and that I need te to think. I get that. I respect that he needs time. But all this making love, spending time before I leave is confusing. I'm not sure if it's helping or hurting the situation.
JayL Posted September 28, 2012 Posted September 28, 2012 What you two need right now is space and time away from each other. Give it a month or two. The sex is the road block. If you two can't do it, then both of you won't get the time to reflect on yourselves. I know it's hard, but this is what's necessary.
Author jacks24 Posted September 29, 2012 Author Posted September 29, 2012 Yeah you're right. It is necessary... I just hope that absence will make the heart grow fonder, and it scares me that it won't for him. Only time will tell.
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