manofmystrey Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 hi there.... I was wondering if you guys could lend a hand. I have searched all over for a support group but could not find one. Untill i found this fourm. So here is my story. I have know this girl my whole life ever since we were in grade 4 together and i loved her right from then. We started dating when we were 17 and to me she was the one. In the years we were together I went through alot for her and her family despite the fact that they were not very found of me. For you see came from a wealther family then i did and she was used to certain things and her family was thinking i was in it for the money. I never took a dime that i never earned. Her brother was very vocal about his dislike for me and he told everyone anything negative he could think of. He atacked my character he atacked my personality and he even came after me with a bunch of his buddies. No sweat i dealt with it cause she asked me to. When he was comming after me she made me promise i would not fight him back so i did not. Her father then had a accident and he was not able to work and i had a great job and i was making great money so i was helping support her family and this happned for about 3 years and at the end i was left broke. well then she decided she wanted to go to school and begged me for help so i did and i left school to help her. Shortly there after her brother committed suicide. well after 7 years she left me for another guy at med school with her and she told me that she blames me for her bad realtionship she had with her brother and the rest of her family. She told me that i have never done anything good for her and so on and so forth. but she did it over email. But my problem is that i cant get over her and i dont know why. its been about a year since we broke up. Can anyone give some advice.
cinnamonstix49 Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 ManOfMystrey, You will probably always have some feelings for her, she was *I assume* your first love. That alone is enough to keep you attached to her, not to mention the years you spent devoted to her and her family. I wish you the best of luck, in time the hurt will go away, but the feelings will probably always remain.
wolvie666 Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 It's hard to say what the hell your ex is thinking treating you that way. You've obviously bent over backwards for her and for her to say you haven't done anything is insane. She clearly has some emotional issues and they probably relate to the problems in her family. For right now it is probably best to try and forget about her. My fiance and I have only been apart for 2 months so I understand the feeling of not being able to get over it. However, this sounds like it was quite a dysfunctional situation and for your sake I would try to find somebody else to love. You were clearly underappreciated and I really feel that way right now too. If this girl is meant to be with you you will find your way back to each other. I was given some hope the other day when I found a couple I was friends with (who were together for 5 years and broke up a little over a year ago) got back together after both being with other people. It sort of gave me a feeling that maybe true love can conquer. Keep your chin up and just push on with your life without her. Maybe she will work her issues out realize what she lost and come back to you. If she doesn't you may be saving yourself from a lot of mental anguish by not being with her anyway.
Author manofmystrey Posted July 26, 2004 Author Posted July 26, 2004 wolvie666 thanks man i just read your post and you are going throught he same thing i am and i understand what u are going through. In my case she lied to me and my family and when she said yes to marrying me she with this other guy and that is what hurt me more then anything why would she want to marry me and be with this other guy as well.
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