me with thisShe constantly turns from head over heels to doubts...

[truffelo]

Me (25), She (29) have known each other for some years... there was always a very good connection allthough we both had partners and we didn't saw each other as potential lovers.

But things changed, we both became single, had some fun nights with common friends, started talking a lot, REALLY a lot and before I knew, we were sending like 100 text messages each day, call each other a few times a week, went over each others house 3-4 times a week, etc

 

So I realized I was falling in love and she felt it and said she would like to be in love too but that she didn't felt physical connection and that the idea was too strange for her...

 

But Ok, i didn't took a lot of initiative because i didn't want to ruin our intense friendship,so she did...

timeline:

fun nights with friends and starting to have a lot of contact: july

started to see each other a lot and to be continous in contact: august

16th of august she started to kiss me

a week later she had a first night were she seemed head over heels and we had the most passionate night ever (untill then)

 

Since then I know it's every week a bit the same story... there are 4 days she's crazy in love with me, but veeery intense... Then she introduces me to all of her friends, to her family, she doesn't talk about anything else but me, she uses superlatives, she wants to plan holidays etc...

Then there are always 1 or 2 days that she doubts everything

 

I feel it comming every time...

Then she can be really destructive and then she thinks she doesn't feel enough and she's angry at herself for being like that and she's getting stressed that things are getting too serious and that she will break my heart and she feels as if she lost control...

 

We communicate very well, so we always know about each other how we feel. I feel that she still isn't very balanced about her previous relationship ( it's allready over since the end of 2010 but she still has contact with him on a regular base)

We can talk for hours and hours and hours ( we don't sleep a lot anymore these days

The sex we have is almost legendary, it's completly synchronized everytime

I know that there is really nothing of me that she doesn't love but does she push me away sometimes?

 

But that makes it all so strange.

I know love should be "fun fun fun" at the beginning so probably you all think I should quit this but I have such a good feeling with this woman and I know that if she stops that worrying, we would have a great relationship...

Edited September 28, 2012 by truffelo

[Minka333]

The instability of your relationship will become a stable pattern. Are you a very patient, understanding and strong-willed man? If so, great!...be prepared to enter a giant rollercoaster. It would be one helluva' ride!

[truffelo]

now i am thinking that maybe it has something to do with the fact that i'm also stressed because of the situation and it's hard to be myself and confident in that way sometimes...

That doesn't help her i presume...

 

Tonight we're going to a restaurant.

I know i have to try to be as confident possible but that's easier said than done.

I know that her highest peaks are the moments that i feel comfortable