Blastoplast Posted September 28, 2012 Posted September 28, 2012 This was easily the worst year of my life -- not only did the girlfriend of 7 years leave me 1 week before my birthday, my grandma died, I got arrested, broke a girls collarbone, broke my hand and my PC broke 2 times in 2 months -- amongst other things. I had a nervous breakdown 1 month ago... It was like, what else is going to happen to me now? Well, 2 weeks ago I took my ex out on a date -- we went and saw our favorite band. We both cried a little bit, went out for 2 drinks afterwards and had a nice talk. I hugged her, and it was a goodbye hug. I felt like I finally got the closure I was looking for after 6 grueling months. Now I've had the one fine dropped to a lesser charge, there's this lovely adorable woman who's entered my life and made me feel so much better, and I'm back in college after a LONG hiatus. It's been crazy really, but I thought I'd never see the end of misery, that I would never taste food again. All it takes is a series of fortunate events to realize how much good you have going for you, and that you need to make the best out the worst situations. Being with a new girl has shown me in VERY LITTLE TIME how !@#$y my EX was treating me at the end, and how selfish and immature she is. Funny thing is, this new girl is 5 years younger than my EX (She's 23), yet she's shown more physical, emotional and financial security than my EX displayed in 7 years together. Just keep on trucking, strange things will happen when you least expect them, and thanks everybody for the advice and help I got off these forums during easily the darkest time in my life. Life is worth living, don't let a loss steal the goodness that lives deep down inside everybody! Cheers, -BLASTO 1
FP1985 Posted September 28, 2012 Posted September 28, 2012 Damn right, way to go! Glad to hear your coping so well. Meeting and dating new people can really show you how lovely some people can be compared to ones ex. I found out also that the biggest misstake I made during the grief and sadness was focusing on only the good part of the memories. My girlfriend was, in the end, a manipulative, lying piece of crap, and I still belive to this day that she thinks she didn't do anything wrong. She really treated me like crap. But after almost 6 years of being together and then breaking up you only remember the good times. You don't remember any rainy days from your childhood summers either, only the sunny ones. Nostalgia is a dangerous thing. Oh, the good ol' days, when times were bad.
Jingle14 Posted September 28, 2012 Posted September 28, 2012 Damn right, way to go! Glad to hear your coping so well. Meeting and dating new people can really show you how lovely some people can be compared to ones ex. I found out also that the biggest misstake I made during the grief and sadness was focusing on only the good part of the memories. My girlfriend was, in the end, a manipulative, lying piece of crap, and I still belive to this day that she thinks she didn't do anything wrong. She really treated me like crap. But after almost 6 years of being together and then breaking up you only remember the good times. You don't remember any rainy days from your childhood summers either, only the sunny ones. Nostalgia is a dangerous thing. Oh, the good ol' days, when times were bad. Well mine will have a Hell of a lot of good memories then - surprise holidays ('the nicest thing anyone has ever done for me, the best present I've ever had'), spontaenous gifts (often left in his porch at home for him to see when he opened his door in the morning or when returning in the evening), encouragement and support, loving compliments and, kind gestures, generosity and kindness. Meanwhile, I have the memories of the lies he fed me and horrible notes I found written about me on his pc. And I am the one who apologised for things I had done which I felt were wrong whereas he will never think he did anything wrong at all. Arrogant, selfish, weak, cowardly and lacking in any self awareness or conscience whatsoever. And I am the idiot who still pines and grieves his loss, what a fool, he should be the one grieving my loss and I hope one day he might (though I very much doubt it) as I would dearly love to throw rejection at him.
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