Before that first date

[spiderowl]

What kind of things do you think about before a first date? You know, you're at that stage where you've communicated online, you've just talked on the phone and you are getting a feel for the kind of person and like them. The first date is set up, so in a way the stakes have been raised. What kind of things do you think about? What do you worry about? Are there things you wish you could ask in advance but feel it wouldn't be right at this stage?

 

I'm not talking about the obvious 'will I find him/her physically attractive' thoughts, but anything else.

[ThaWholigan]

I try not to think. If I do, it's either not usually about the date or it is a positive feeling - I get antsy rather than anxious. Thinking is the worst thing to do .

 

My first time doesn't count because technically we haven't dated, just a series of hook-ups. I generally like to think about football before a date. It relaxes me. Or I make full blown pieces of music in my head. If I do think of the date inevitably, it is usually about what I'm going to say as an icebreaker, as 1st impressions do stick .

[GirlontheLam]

Basically, I hope this person isn't boring..... I am a good conversationalist, so if we can't find something to talk about, there is definitely something wrong with you!

[spiderowl]

I've had such thoughts as what if he's boring or not like his picture? What if he smells bad (had that happen before)? What if he's not interested in sex any more (if he's older then me)? What if he's only interested in sex? What if he's bossy or opinionated?

 

And then of course 'what if he isn't interested in me in person'? I'd cope but it is still a bit of a tense time.

[suladas]

Just go with it, and have no expectations. I was really nervous, but for no reason. I very quickly found out I wasn't interested in her, and after that it was just a friendly conversation until dinner was over. Just be yourself and see what happens.