A guys dating age range on his profile

[kaylan]

I still have no idea what you want to test drive older women. I have older female friends and single older female co-workers and I want nothing to do with them romantically or physically. I'm only attracted to women my age or younger. And the oldest I've ever dated have been my age. Although in the past I have hit on older women unknowingly...but hey what can I say, some just age well.

You have no idea why Id wanna date older women? Doesnt my OP state why?

 

Just because you dont like older women, doesnt mean plenty of guys dont love dating them. For me theres a sexy mystique around them. I like the idea of an experienced woman. I also enjoy the fact that older women tend to rush less with dating (if theyve already done the settle down thing in the past), that they are more secure in who they are, and that they seem to be way less drama. But experience is the biggest factor for me...as it annoys me how little experience some women in their 20s seem to have.

 

I hate having to walk people through dating, sex, and relationships.

 

It's quite possible to date someone your age or younger who's as mature as you if not more-so, it just depends what social circles you run with.

Its possible, but still, for many guys like myself, the experience that older women have makes them sexy. Why should women be the only ones who get turned on by a confident older person whos experienced life and could show them a lesson or two...be it sexual, emotional, or mental.

I only have one friend I know who prefers an older woman as a mate because he wants to be taken care of and play the passive role.

Meh...more guys are open to it then you think.

Kaylan! 46? lol what? You are funny. Do you actually want to DATE a 40something woman? Or is it a more sexual thing? (which is fine, I am just curious).

Im open to both. Though active dating would be a lot more fun. Id def have a good time romancing a woman in her 40s. Id feel like this rebellious young stallion haha. Like the guy in Unfaithful. Diane Lane is sexy as hell in that movie.

Can you leave the age range empty, or just do a bottom # and leave the highest # empty? I think 46 sounds kinda crazy, I think the highest you should list is 40 and tbh I feel that is pushing it. I'd think a range of like 22-32 would be more appropriate. I am REALLY curious about your interest in women 35+? If it's a sexual thing, just msg the women who are older and wouldn't see you in their search parameters.

Why is it crazy? Life is about experience. I wanna experience a ton of things in my life still. And not simply for the sexual aspects.

 

Why is it so odd whenever a young guy likes older women?

Edited September 28, 2012 by kaylan

[monkey00]

You have no idea why Id wanna date older women? Doesnt my OP state why?

 

Just because you dont like older women, doesnt mean plenty of guys dont love dating them. For me theres a sexy mystique around them. I like the idea of an experienced woman. I also enjoy the fact that older women tend to rush less with dating (if theyve already done the settle down thing in the past), that they are more secure in who they are, and that they seem to be way less drama. But experience is the biggest factor for me...as it annoys me how little experience some women in their 20s seem to have.

 

There are always exceptions. I'm dating someone who's mid 20's now and she's the most mature person I've ever dated, has strong work ethics, and balances her personal life, social life, work life, and finances pretty well. In many ways she's more mature than most women I know who are her age tbh.

 

I hate having to walk people through dating, sex, and relationships.

 

I think you should give women your age the benefit of the doubt. Many by that age have been around and know quite a lot about dating,sex,R...they are by no means toddlers at it. Most of them will probably not be as experienced as a woman in their 30's obviously, but you know what I mean.

 

Its possible, but still, for many guys like myself, the experience that older women have makes them sexy. Why should women be the only ones who get turned on by a confident older person whos experienced life and could show them a lesson or two...be it sexual, emotional, or mental.

 

Meh...more guys are open to it then you think.

 

To each their own. Go for it, whatever floats your boat man. I agree with you there are many guys that are open to it. My lady friend who's around 34 is dating a guy that's 29...so far it works. But at her age, she knows the clock is ticking and she is ready for marriage and kids ASAP. If he isn't ready for it in a year, she'll dump him and she means it.

 

When I was younger in my early 20's I wanted only to date older women (by a few years). It sounded good on paper, but nothing ever transpired for me. Personally I hate being told what to do and especially not by a woman. I see your frustrations and many women in their early 20's only want to party and date around, but I hardly see that problem approaching late 20's.

[kaylan]

I have no issue with women partying or dating around. I do it myself.

 

My wanting to date older women has nothing to do with younger girls dating habits. Ill date them too, but at the moment I have a preference for older gals.

 

And I get what you are saying about the biological clock with older women. But Id be more apt to date women whove already done the settling down thing and are going back into dating without rushing.

[Emilia]

People are so different and there is such a variety in the world, it's worth keeping an open mind. I know very great guys who are 20 and who are 45. It's a shame to write anyone off based on parameters.

[darkmoon]

"confident older person whos experienced life and could show them a lesson or two..."

 

I'm an older woman who knows other older women, you might get lucky, but we hardly know you and you want sex classes, as if we are easily promiscuous, look, ask Kim Catrall, she's the actress that got the Cougar/older women thing going in Sex And The City - this is more her responsibility than any other woman's, ask her, i'd like to kmow her response xx

Edited September 28, 2012 by darkmoon

[Emilia]

I know damned well what they're looking for and school is closed - I'm not teaching any youngin's anything. When I tell these little pervs I have a 28 year old son, they try that overused "age is just a number" crap on me. LOL.

 

Good, then if it's "just a number," go chase 20-somethings.

 

I'm sure there are older women who need the ego stroke of having a young man persue them and they'll be happy to spend time with you. I don't see it as flattering, I just see it as plain creepy and it doesn't flatter me in the LEAST that some young guy wants to use me to fulfill his older woman fantasy. Blech.

 

My view is completely different. I don't think male sexuality changes that much regardless of age ie a nice guy in his 40s was still a nice guy in his 20s, a user/player in his 40s was the same in his 20s. It's character, not age that matters.

 

There are plenty of nice boys out there in their 20s who want to experience something different the same way that I want to experience something different. Some will view you as a plaything they can practice in, others have values and morals who see you as a human being.

 

It is unfortunate how many people get worn down by age and negative life experiences, it's nice to meet them and spend time with them before that happens. That's my main attraction to younger men.

[Woggle]

One advantage to being with an older woman is that she dislikes texting and Facebook as much as I do. Even when I was a teenager I enjoyed hanging out with people in their 20s men and women because they had more life experience and understood the world better.

[Titanwolf]

Why do people assume, men are interested in older women purely for sex?. I think that more often than not, that man is mature beyond his years and finds it difficult to find that same quality in a person his age, so he seeks out an older woman. An woman I was seeing for a short while is 42 (41 when we met) and the relationship we had was fantastic, we were very mentally and emotionally connected. There were none of those uncertainties you tend to find in younger relationships...good times

[kaylan]

"confident older person whos experienced life and could show them a lesson or two..."

 

I'm an older woman who knows other older women, you might get lucky, but we hardly know you and you want sex classes, as if we are easily promiscuous, look, ask Kim Catrall, she's the actress that got the Cougar/older women thing going in Sex And The City - this is more her responsibility than any other woman's, ask her, i'd like to kmow her response xx

Seems you didnt read my posts in their entirety. Because I clearly mentioned the experience factor is not only about sex. Theres something nice about hearing an older love interests life experiences.

LOL...you and just about every other 20-something on earth. What is this Mrs. Robinson fantasy you all have with older women?

 

I get persued by 20-somethings all the time - on the dating site when I was active as well as in person. It's creepy as hell, to be honest. I know damned well what they're looking for and school is closed - I'm not teaching any youngin's anything. When I tell these little pervs I have a 28 year old son, they try that overused "age is just a number" crap on me. LOL.

 

Good, then if it's "just a number," go chase 20-somethings.

 

I'm sure there are older women who need the ego stroke of having a young man persue them and they'll be happy to spend time with you. I don't see it as flattering, I just see it as plain creepy and it doesn't flatter me in the LEAST that some young guy wants to use me to fulfill his older woman fantasy. Blech.

Lolol

 

Attraction is attraction. So it is what it is. I know some older women out there arent bothered by a young guy showing interest in them.

 

Your attitude regarding the matter is highly off putting though. It aint that big of a deal lady.

 

Lets not pretend that you got older, and just because your son is in his 20s, no guys in their 20s ever look attractive to you. Because Id have to roll my eyes if thats what youre selling. Plus, you act as if men your own age would behave much differently towards you. Men want sex, no matter what their age.

Edited September 28, 2012 by kaylan

[Anela]

I'm older than you, and not that experienced (not as experienced as I'd like to be). I was amused when I received messages from guys who were looking for the same thing that you are, for that reason.

 

I see no problem with your age range. The only thing that usually bothers me when it comes to that, is the older guys - usually over forty - who have an age range for women that doesn't include their own age. They want to be seen as a youngster - or young-at-heart - but dismiss their female peers? No way.

[Anela]

 

As an older woman, I've been approached by a lot of young guys (it hapens on dating sites) and I found it really annoying that these guys were looking for an experience as if I was an alien species they fancied trying for a while. Most older women are wise to young studs seeking a bit of 'mature fun' and you might not get the welcome you anticipate from them.

 

I felt this way, too. Although I've never just wanted a bit of fun, when it comes to sex. I always wanted something more.

 

One eighteen-year-old said outright that he was looking for a mature woman, to teach him a few things (I felt eighty-years-old, but he made me laugh).

[Anela]

The thing I find odd is why older man younger women are so accepted and so common, yet the other way around isn't. Not to many people accept that a older women and younger man could last.

 

That gets on my nerves, too.

[kaylan]

Come on, Kaylan. The only reason you're interested in dating women in their 40's is for the experience as WELL as the sexual experience, and what it will teach you. You don't look at a 45 year old woman as long term relationship material and you know it.

When did I say sex wasnt a part of it? Sex is ALWAYS a part of ANY dating. I told you that sex wasnt the ONLY experience I cared about. Read your previous post again...then read my previous post...and then reread the OP.

 

You responded to me as if this is only about sex and I told you it wasnt. Maybe you missed the part where I said in the OP id be open to a relationship. It might not lead to marriage, but Id have no problems doing any sort of commitment. Maybe you also missed when I told veggirl Id happily date an older lady, and not simply for sex.

 

Why do people get so bent out of shape about age gaps? Especially when the guy is younger....i seriously wanna know what the beef is.

This ain't rocket science.

Its not. Which is why you shouldnt put words in my mouth next time.

And whether a 20-something is attractive to me or not doesn't mean squat. There are A LOT of attractive people out there - that doesn't mean I have to sample them all. You're a young man - you look at the world as though it's your own personal candy store and you should. I get that. I'm at a different stage in life, however, and don't look at things that way. That's why I have no need to play with some 28 year old for the "experience."

Whether you find them attractive has much to do with the topic. And plenty of older women act on that attraction. Thats the point.

I'm going to be extremely honest and tell you I've been very fortunate in looking much younger than my age and have never had a problem with attracting men. The reason I even bring this up is because I have always had more than my share of suitors and admirers persuing me my whole life, so a 20-something wanting to experience what it's like to be with an older woman simply doesn't flatter me in the LEAST - whether he's attractive or not.

Ok...thats simply your dating life. Not everyones. Dunno why you decided to be so condescending with this post as well as your initial post.

 

Whether my attitude is off-putting or not, it's how I feel. If you think I'm the only older woman who feels this way, you'd be very, very wrong. I'm not rude to the youngin's until they start pressing their agenda on me and telling me age is just a number and all that bullsh*t. It's NOT just a number and they know it - they're PURPOSELY seeking out older women because it's a fantasy of theirs, plain and simple. It was EXACTLY the number that drew them to me, so I don't know who they think they're kidding.

You may not be the only older women to feel the way you do, but Im sure plenty of them wouldnt be condescending and patronizing about it. Maybe you should grow up some?

 

People have all kinds of fantasies. No biggie. And like it was stated earlier...men of all ages want sex. So chill out and get with reality.

I get enough flattery from men, trust me. I don't need 20-somethings looking at me as their Stiffler's Mother fantasty to feed my ego. LOL.

Lol again with the attitude. Get over yourself. Edited September 28, 2012 by kaylan

[darkmoon]

Seems you didnt read my posts in their entirety. Because I clearly mentioned the experience factor is not only about sex. Theres something nice about hearing an older love interests life experiences.

 

most people charge for biz advice due to business life experiences being hard won; but here's a candid life advice freebie, again based on experience - be less bossy than in the paragraph above and be more accepting instead, you wrote two whole bossy sentences, but all you had to say is "there's been a misunderstanding..."

i think you'll get on better in life, seriously xx

Edited September 28, 2012 by darkmoon

[RogerWallace111]

Plus, the idea of sexual experience with age being a really significant upgrade from the younger ladies is just not that huge a factor. A chick of any age who just lays there is gonna bore you. A chick of any age who moves well and knows what she's doing is gonna be awesome. I suppose older women generally might have "perfected" their craft a bit more, but their energy levels aren't likely to be quite as high either.

 

I recently got down with a chick in her mid thirties (ten my senior), and though she was sensual, a bit kinky, and "good", I wasn't thinking "holy ****, her experience shows, this is what I've been missing !" I know there are plenty of girls my age who **** just as well. Though her bj skills were actually incredible now that I think about it haaaaa. And **** I might have to take the energy comment back cause we went three rounds..... I just don't know anymore !

[sabre80]

This is an interesting thread. I am just about to turn 32. I have always been more attracted to older woman. Right now some of the best dates I have had have been with women 8-12 years older than me. I would be lying if the sexual aspect was not a factor.

 

It is not that I expect them to teach me a thing or two. Or that they will appreciate having a hot young stud (more often it is I that appreciates and I that has to keep up with them). It has more to do with the fact that they are more comfortable in their skin. They have no problem communicating with you what they want and don't want and aren't hung up on self conciousness.

 

With that said that is only a fraction of why I find them attractive. The dates are just way more enjoyable. Conversation flows naturally. They have more life experiences. I have more life experiences as most people in their 30's and its nice to talk with people who have as much as I.

 

Women in their 30's have a lot of drama. They are often still dealing with the fallout of a recent divorce. They want to talk about their ex's all the time. They are still bitter and often feel like they have a damn defensive wall up. They also are most often to have that "My kid(s) come #1 in my life". I am a single full time father I appreciate that. But my kids live in MY life not the other way around. I come #1 and I make sure they are not neglected.

 

Women in their 20's are still in that "independent" party phase.

 

Granted everything I said is a generalization but it is one based on my experiences. I do not specifically hunt out older women. If I find you interesting and pretty I am going to talk to you. Regardless of age. But I have had the most enjoyable time with women 40-45. Therefore experience lends me to feel more attracted to older women.

[RogerWallace111]

I know we're the focus isn't sex, but I have to add... I mostly am attracted to girls around my age or even younger ones. Their bodies are what I really dig at this point in my life.

 

But there is something about getting your dick sucked, or gettin' a nice rub-n-tug from a large breasted, older woman. Something f*ckin badass.

[LuckyLady13]

Hey Kaylan, I'm really surprised by some of the responses to this. I'll tell you what happened with me about six years ago.

 

I got out of a horribly bad, abusive, totally messed up relationship and took a break from the relationship scene for a while to clear my head and shake off all the baggage. That didn't mean I wasn't going to have any fun! I got hooked up with a FWB my age for about six months and hadn't met or bumped into a guy yet who I'd want to be in a relationship with.

 

Then this young guy I'm running into every day starts to catch my eye and I'd never been with a much younger guy before. I thought I was nuts to even think about it at first but when he started flirting with me? I couldn't get him out of my head! Great body, enthusiastic, wide-eyed...a lot of the things guys my age were lacking!

 

Just when I really started to consider the whole idea, I met the guy I was looking for so nothing ever happened. Oh well...

 

I don't understand though...women who act like a young guy in it just for sex with an older, more laid back, experienced woman is a bad thing. I thought it was perfect! I wasn't in the mood to settle down with anybody at the time, I was in the middle of getting my head clear from nasty baggage of a bad relationship so I would have only been in it for the sex myself.

 

I had it going through my head for like a week (didn't want to jump right into it) and the whole time I'm thinking...well, what if he gets attached to me or wants a relationship or something? I'd feel so bad for him!

[Quiet Storm]

A chick of any age who just lays there is gonna bore you. A chick of any age who moves well and knows what she's doing is gonna be awesome. I suppose older women generally might have "perfected" their craft a bit more, but their energy levels aren't likely to be quite as high either.

 

If you asked my husband what the difference is between the 20 YO me and the 36 YO me, it would be how much more comfortable I am with my body.

 

At 20, I didn't know where my g spot was, I didn't know I could squirt. (but even if I had known that, I'd have worried about the mess). I wasn't as comfortable verbalizing what I wanted and how I wanted it. I was more self conscious about my body. I worried about being judged for certain preferences. I wasn't as imaginative. I hadn't discovered my kinks yet.

 

At 20 I may have had a flawless body, but I think I'm a better lover at 36.