PeterD Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Hi everyone,i wanted to ask your advice if that's okay So i went to Canada for a couple of weeks and met this girl at a bar.We talked a lot,laughed and she gave me a discount on my drinks the whole evening.Unfortionately i had to go the next day.But 2 weeks later after traveling through Canada i went back there,she was in the bar too but this time she didn't had to work so we talked for a little while and then after 12 pm it was my birthday.4 girls surrounded me and before i knew it,i was standing in my underwear,then i was tied to a pole with ducktape.The girl then came with 5 shots and put it in her mouth before kissing me over and over again.After i was released she took me to the showers and you probably know what happend next.The next day she told me she was bi sexual and had a girlfriend.I felt pretty bad about that so we talked a little more before i had to go to Montreal.The next day i called her to hear how she was doing,she told me her girlfriend knew about what happend at the bar,they already had a lot of fights because they live 5 hours from eachother.I called her again in the evening because i was worried and felt really guilty,she ten decided to come to Montreal and spend my last evening in Canada with me (it was a 4 hour drive for her to get to Montreal).We went to a bar and drank a couple of beers,after that we went to a river and talked about her girlfriend and everything that happend.She said that normally she likes girls but when she thinks of the perfect guy it would be me and that she would love to come to my country.She also said it was fate that we met eachother,and she was even talking about marriage and that she didn't wanted to have kids but if it would be with me,she would love to have children.After that she stayed at my hotel room but this time nothing happend except for some hugging and kissing,well the next morning it did happen again because we couldn't control ourselfs anymore.The next day she stayed with me untill i had to take the bus to the airport,she wanted to hold hands the whole day,said she felt like a princess and that i wasn't an idiot like most guys,that i knew how to listen.we decided it would be best if we didn't talk for a couple of things so she could thinks things over and talk to her girlfriend.She was still saying how perfect i was,how i treated her the right way and how beautiful i was.It was really hard to say goodbye and we kept kissing and hugging eachother.I think i even heard her say i love you before she quickly said you should go.Now what to you think i should do?I never met a girl like her and for me she is the perfect match too,but i live in Europe and don't want a long distance relationship.I don't care if i have to move if i can be with her,but i'm also afraid if i don't contact her untill she contacts me i will lose her and she will choose her girlfriend but on the other hand i don't want to come between her and her girlfriend because i think they should talk about everything.So it's pretty hard for me right now. Much thanks in advance!
justwhoiam Posted September 28, 2012 Posted September 28, 2012 Now what to you think i should do? I don't know how old you are and what you are looking for. If you'd like to have a family and raise children, this is not the girl for you. If you just want to live the moment, have some nice time, then maybe she's the right one for you now. But then, what if you fall for her really bad? Don't expect anything good long-term with her. I've just read a story about a guy who's 24 and had a baby with a woman he's been with for 4 years. He's always been attracted to guys and she knew it. They both thought that if love is strong enough it would win. It didn't. After 4 years into their relationship, he felt the urge to have sex with a man. So they broke up. Now, she's attracted to women. If that doesn't bother you a bit, then go for it. A number of men might even find it exciting, but then be prepared to end up as a "back up" or fade in the background. Ask yourself what you really want.
TMichaels Posted September 28, 2012 Posted September 28, 2012 Now what to you think i should do? A) Go to a local health clinic and get tested for STDs B) Realize you have two heads and you've been thinking with only one C) Start using the one you've been neglecting and D) Get on with your life which (unless you are a fool and a masochist) should not include her. Best, TMichaels
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