Sheridan1993 Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 My husband and I have only married for a short amount of time. I love him very much but before we got married he cheated on me. Ever since then I haver so much trouble trusting him. I want to be able to trust him again. I know he has not done anything since but but I'm just so afraid of getting hurt again. I find myself on days just being mean for no reason I feel,like I am trying to push him away.. When I really do what our marriage to work. What will help build my trust back up? Will I feel better if I cheat on him?
BreakOnThrough Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 By all means, never cheat to try and fix a problem. i don't think you ever got over him cheating on you initially, and that needs to be addressed before you can trust him again and move on with your marriage. Try couples counseling and make sure that the both of you are completely forward with the therapist, when you feel that everything is out on the table, you can begin to build a foundation of trust. The key is being completely open, no secrets... You should also have access to all his means of communication, passwords etc. and you should do the same for him, if he refuses, well... 1
aiyam Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 You cheating on your husband to get even or feel better will not do any good. Rather it will make things worst. For the marriage and for yourself. If you are still angry, get it all out and tell him how you feel, and your intention of making things work out. 1
Silly_Girl Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 How much of this have you explained to him? Does he truly *understand* what his cheating still means to you? Has he taken positive action that would encourage you to trust him? Most people don't decide not to trust, there's generally good reason so this is not your problem alone; the two of you need to tackle it together. 1
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