PinkLibra10 Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 I've been dating my boyfriend for one year and two months. We tell each other we love each other every day. He recently met this "friend" on Facebook. She invited him me and her other girlfriend to a club downtown last Saturday night to celebrate her 21st birthday which was on Thursday. Shes been married once before at 18 and has a two year old daughter. We had a good time. She dnced with other guys and I danced with my bf. she even said when are we gonna get married to my bf n that he should put a huge ring on my finger. When we left she told him to give me her number that we should do it again. Then a couple days later he texted me saying he was on his way to Loews with her Nd her daughter to return a few things. He's always there cause he's a builder. They were gone from like 630pm to 930pm. I said u were there for 3 hrs? He said they were looking around there for awhile, and it takes half hour each way to get there and back plus they went to bk and ate there before coming home. Mind u I didn't like when he said he was with her alone without me there but I didn't say anything. Didn't wanna overreact so I just said tell her hi and have fun whatever u do. Trying to be the trusting gf. I haven't said anything to him about how it bothers me but am thinking about asking him if he cheated on Friday in person. He told me before he would never cheat on me that I'm his world. So should I be worried? Another online friend said I should ask him and look for signs if he's lying. And I should just leave and say I need some time to think about this but Donno if I can do that cause we only see each other every weekend. Sorry this message is so long I just need to get this off my chest and need some advice. I love him so much. My bf had also said they were both bored which is why they went out. Help please????
EmeraldStar Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 In my honest opinion, that's not enough to go by to know if he's cheating or not. Even if I were in your shoes, yea, I'd worry, but it's still not enough to go by. Tell him it gently that it made you uncomfortable. Assure him that if he's bored (and your time allows) that he can always call, txt, or drop by, etc. and you can help fix his bordom. You might be able to tell from his reaction to that to know if there's more going on or not.
Author PinkLibra10 Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 Thanks for ur reply. So do u think I reacted ok to his text about him being with her? Should I have reacted a little possessive or jealous? And what about Friday should I walk out. Cause if I stay he'll just brush it off like its ok. But if I don't at least hell have to react in some way and will make him worry bout losing me. I just don't wanna play games. I'd wanna wait for him to text or call me first.
EmeraldStar Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 If you don't want to play games, don't start any. I think you reacted fine with your txt. And it's ok to be trusting. Let him know you want to express your feelings and just be open about how you feel about it. And be open to his replies. The only time to walk out like that is if you're done with him 100%.
Brooklynkid Posted September 28, 2012 Posted September 28, 2012 I always listen to my intuition and it's never been wrong yet. If your gut is telling you something listen to it. Don't jump to conclussions and give him the benefit of the doubt but keep your eyes and ears open.
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