dd787 Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 My Fianc'e and i split up 5 weeks ago in what was a nasty break up, with things said which i regret. We had split up 3 or 4 times before, which normally resulted in her leaving our flat and going back to her parents then contacting me a few days later saying she loved me and wanted me back. Im in week 5 of no contact and she has blocked me on facebook. However i have recently found out that she hasnt cancelled anything to do with our wedding which was booked for next year. Am i clinging to hope or does it mean something that after all this time she hasnt cancelled anything?
I'm nuts Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 If you have spilt up 3 or 4 times before do you think getting married would/will be a good idea? 1
Author dd787 Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 No i certainly wouldnt marry her next year after this, maybe in the future sometime. I would love any chance to give our relationship a go as i do love her and miss her. I just cant understand if she believes it is over for good and wants to move on surely she would of cancelled it by now?
KatZee Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 (edited) If you have spilt up 3 or 4 times before do you think getting married would/will be a good idea? I have to agree with this. The on/off is a very clear indication of severe dysfunction in the relationship. It shows there are problems that never get resolved, or that one or neither of you knows how to really handle conflict to begin with. This is NOT the foundation for a marriage. Marriage is tough stuff. Tougher than you even know, and in a marriage you're not allowed to just breakup, get back together, break up, get back together, move out, move back in. I think you need to take initiative and get in contact with this girl. NC is NOT the route you want to be using right now. There is a wedding in the works, and right now, I'd cancel it. That means you need to have a discussion with her. Vendors need to be called. The longer you wait, the more money you lose. At this point, it's not a game of who can hold NC the longest. Nor is blocking on Facebook conducive to any sort of resolution. Call her up and have a conversation. I honestly don't think you should be marrying anyone you can't even have an adult conversation with. And I don't think I'd use the "she hasn't cancelled anything" as an indication that she's coming back. She sounds highly immature, I wouldn't be surprised if she just hasn't even thought to cancel vendors. Edited September 27, 2012 by KatZee
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