stemac Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Hello its my Ex birthday today and i feel so upset and down, i did NC for 7 weeks i then Emailed her and poured my heart out 2 days ago, i wanted to fight for my love for her and leave a door open for her, but next morning, i get a cold heartless text back :-( it destroyed me in a second, i know i shouldn't have Emailed, I just wanted to fight for our relationship, I love her so very much, she just walked out of my life after 1 week after our holiday, I know she doesn't care, and very heartless she did this twice before to me, and now this its Broken my heart so deeply i cant explain and with her birthday today, its cut me in 2, to many tears and hurt
JayL Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Mind sharing what happened? Perhaps we could shed some light.
Author stemac Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 hello Jay nothing really happened, we fell out about me staying over at hers 1 Saturday night, the sort of fallout every single couple has, we didn't speak for a day or so, then she calls it a day via text, i call her asking why she not talking to me, we have never had an argument in the whole relationship, she made these really meaning-less excuses, i got to upset on the phone , i couldn't talk, The person i thought loved me so much was calling it a day over these small things, So i ended the call , then NC, she told me she loved me everyday before we broke up they must have been lies, I was so true to her in every way a good boyfriend should be, she even said you a great person on the phone call, its the GIGS, I just never seen it coming
JayL Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 You need to speak with her and ask what the real issue was. Tell her to be honest and you'll be understanding of whatever reason it could be. I, myself, is currently hurt as well... recently realized the girl I spent time with, did things with, had sex and made out with really never felt anything for me. I even think she's seeing someone else already just days after we broke up. It's quite obvious. How did I find out? I talked to her and it took her awhile to admit that she never felt anything for me and she just forced herself to. That's a major kick in the balls finding out I lived in fantasy land. So my advice is speak with your ex-gf and seek the answer. You may not like it, but you will get your closure which will help you move on.
Calico Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 You need to speak with her and ask what the real issue was. It doesn't matter what the real issue was. What matters is the situation as it is now: She is not interested in being with him. There is no going back to the past. He projected his desire to "fight for the relationship" on her and got hit by the truck of reality: she does not want the same as he does. She is done. That's the closure. There won't be any other. The only sane solution is to walk away from this and let it go. It's over. If there was any doubt before, coldness after reaching out after 7 weeks of NC makes it ABSOLUTELY clear that there is nothing left to do other than to pick up the shards of his heart, put them into a velveteen bag and start walking away from this. 1
Liz2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 I know girls that absolutely point blank refuse to be friends with exes and they behave like that - the cold text - but inside they still love them and want to be them but they can't sit on the two sides of the fence. I think Jay L gave good advice on finding out what's going on.
Author stemac Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 yes i know its over and its so hard to say that, im not going to contact her again, she text me after she call it a day by a text, that's what i was worth a text ending, she said go talk with a friend and go Doctors and get something temporary, like i had a common cold and it would go in a few days, i think she had a swinging brick for a heart, and clear never gave a ****, and everyone says the same,, just wish i seen it
flitzanu Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 this is why we don't break NC, especially 7 weeks after a breakup. now you got that fresh feeling again and it sucks doesn't it? if your ex hasn't contacted you in 7 weeks, why would you think they'd care to hear from YOU? always a mistake, just work on not making it again. 1
Author stemac Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 yes its crippling, i shouldn't have done it, will have to start again
JayL Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 yes its crippling, i shouldn't have done it, will have to start again Sometimes it helps, I did the same mistake today. Broke up with my ex 3 weeks ago, I made the mistake of contacting her today just to get blown off and told to get lost, basically. She just proved to me how she never gave a damn about us. Use it as step towards moving on. Now you know and you have been reassured that she doesn't give a crap, why cling onto it? Forget her.
Author stemac Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 Sometimes it helps, I did the same mistake today. Broke up with my ex 3 weeks ago, I made the mistake of contacting her today just to get blown off and told to get lost, basically. She just proved to me how she never gave a damn about us. Use it as step towards moving on. Now you know and you have been reassured that she doesn't give a crap, why cling onto it? Forget her. Yes Jay i now see what kind of person she really is, careless, i have to keep thinking she not worth it ... yes jay them cold contacts can really hurt, hope your ok
JayL Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Yes Jay i now see what kind of person she really is, careless, i have to keep thinking she not worth it ... yes jay them cold contacts can really hurt, hope your ok Doing better now... I hope you are too. I felt like an absolute sh*t after her response, but after awhile it sunk into my head and it made me realize that I'm mourning over someone who doesn't give a cr*p about us and most probably never did. I realized that I'm mourning over a person who treats me as someone who doesn't exist, so why bother? Enjoy life and return the favor. She does not exist and she never did.
Author stemac Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 Doing better now... I hope you are too. I felt like an absolute sh*t after her response, but after awhile it sunk into my head and it made me realize that I'm mourning over someone who doesn't give a cr*p about us and most probably never did. I realized that I'm mourning over a person who treats me as someone who doesn't exist, so why bother? Enjoy life and return the favor. She does not exist and she never did. Jay some for me, I broke down tonight, on the phone To my mother, and she got very upset too My ante came on the phone and talked a lot of Sence into me tonight, why the hell I'm I mourning Over someone who doesn't give a ****e about me Could not careless how heart broken I am, how much I cry, things changed in my head tonight, She lost me not the other way round, Stay safe jay great talking to you bud
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