Author weallfalldown Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 out of choice?...........
DC4 Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 1.5 years after my divorce. Starting dating someone recently but it didn't go well. I am so out of practice!
todreaminblue Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 eeeeek lol 6 years the first time single since a teen and the longest time 1
somedude81 Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Lets see. I first wanted a girlfriend at 13. I'm 31 now. So that's being single for 18 years.
ThaWholigan Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 I've always been single. I actually am curious as to what a relationship is actually like . Count the years I've been interested in dating, and I would say I've been single for about 8-10 years.
Regrets58 Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 About 6 months,always move on too fast into next relationship if honest. That's from being a teenager and I'm 54 now-ooops!
somedude81 Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 How could you go for so long without anybody? If I really wanted a relationship, I would bother for it. But I don't think for the time being I will enter one until I enter mid 30s. It's all about trying to focus the mind on something else other than being alone. And no it's not easy. For now, I still have hope that I'll meet a girl that would want to be with me.
MrCastle Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 9 years. Most of those years by choice. A few of them because I ran into some road blocks with the women I was pursuing. I'd say, though, that right now relationships are not even on my mind. Once I developed a better understanding of women and became more successful, I decided it would be better to date around and experience different things as opposed to being with one person; so much so that I'm not entirely sure I believe in this boyfriend/girlfriend thing; at least not from teens to mid 20s. This is the prime of my life, I should be having fun.
iris219 Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Off and on for 7 years. I would occasionally go back to an ex during that period because there is nothing else out there. Currently single for 2 straight years now. That includes no sex. This is definitely NOT by choice. If the past predicts the future, then I'll be single for many more years to come.
Hawaii50 Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 4, ever since starting to work overseas, now just vacationship-flings.
oaks Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 If the past predicts the future, then I'll be single for many more years to come. Can you move house?
oaks Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Longest I've been single (since becoming an adult) - about 6 years. Currently been single for about 6 months, in the traditional sense of 'not being in a relationship', although I've been on several dates.
Author weallfalldown Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 jeez, so a lot of years adding up here........ been single for 4 months throughout my life so far, and i'm 37.....guess it's time to be me.
iris219 Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Can you move house? Nope, I'm stuck here. It's OK because I think it's my age group rather than my location. I've visited other cities and there were no single men over 30. I have friends who live in major cities and they tell me the same thing.
oaks Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Nope, I'm stuck here. Sorry to hear that. It's OK because I think it's my age group rather than my location. I've visited other cities and there were no single men over 30. I have friends who live in major cities and they tell me the same thing. I'm surprised to hear that major cities don't have single men over 30. Disbelieving, even. (but if you can't move it wouldn't help anyway)
iris219 Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Sorry to hear that. I'm surprised to hear that major cities don't have single men over 30. Disbelieving, even. (but if you can't move it wouldn't help anyway) I visited two major cities this year and didn't meet (or even see what looked like) any single men over 30. A good friend of mine moved to Seattle recently and she says there are no single men there either. Maybe the over 30, single, male crowd never leave their house.
alice595 Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 2 and a half years. most productive years of my life. 2
todreaminblue Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 2 and a half years. most productive years of my life. my years have been productive too I dont think i would have pulled my family and myself through the break up if i had started to date before.....I needed thsi time these years to re assess my standards and values my morals, to take the time to be sure of what i need and really want.Not make another mistake this time ....my heart would not have survived.Not for losing love, but for making constant misjudgements and having hopes shattered.Was not in any way strong enough my family or for sure.....me.We have all grown still dysfunctional but we love each other......sometimes.....smilin........deb
orionboxing Posted September 28, 2012 Posted September 28, 2012 3.5 years - that included no sex, kissing, or even a date. Pretty miserable.
carhill Posted September 28, 2012 Posted September 28, 2012 This current period, post-D, is the longest continuous period of not dating, currently at 31 months. I've gone longer outside of a LTR, but was dating, meaning I routinely socialized with women and/or had a female companion, so I don't count those periods as being 'single' for my own purposes.
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