silicone Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Would anyone get worried if their boyfriend or girlfriend didn't update their FaceBook status to In a Relationship and maintained it as single, whilst having posted something on Twitter along the lines of "#ICantDateYou if you care more about looks than what's inside". Do note that they use Facebook often. Does it really matter?
alexlakeman Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Ummm, yeah, problem.. why do they want to hide from their FB friends that they are in a relationship? I'd ask them, straight out... Well, they probably don't want to hurt someone in their friend list, or don't want to show that they moved on so quickly, or don't want their s/o to find out...
Author silicone Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 Ummm, yeah, problem.. why do they want to hide from their FB friends that they are in a relationship? I'd ask them, straight out... Well, they probably don't want to hurt someone in their friend list, or don't want to show that they moved on so quickly, or don't want their s/o to find out... I suppose if I were a 16 year old teenage kid it might actually have some significance. They don't know any better and aren't expected to. I'm trying to balance it out, she's 18, got a new Facebook account and she set her status to single. A bit disrespectful seeing as she's meant to be in a relationship, don't you think? On the other hand, it makes me feel as if she's not proud of me,
Emilia Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 I'm trying to balance it out, she's 18, got a new Facebook account and she set her status to single. A bit disrespectful seeing as she's meant to be in a relationship, don't you think? On the other hand, it makes me feel as if she's not proud of me, When you are insecure dating someone who doesn't know who to reassure you can make you feel worse
Author silicone Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 When you are insecure dating someone who doesn't know who to reassure you can make you feel worse I admit that I'm insecure, that in part made me start to change myself, working out etc. consequences is that I get more attention than I did before, but I only care about the same given by my girlfriend. To then go and post what was written on Twitter didn't help, but, if I do tell friends that I'm in a relationship, I end up arguing about it. I mean, is it appropriate for me to advertise myself as single whilst being in a relationship?
Emilia Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 I mean, is it appropriate for me to advertise myself as single whilst being in a relationship? I'm not the kind of person who puts relationship status on facebook (single or otherwise unless I was engaged or married I think) so I can't think with that person's mind. If it was happening to me, I would ask my other half what the deal was with that and act accordingly. If I felt that he was fishing around or didn't care about my feelings, aI would probably see that as an indication of his character. The way I see it, it's not a big deal to respect another person's views and wishes and to compromise on the small stuff BUT you have to talk to them first. I don't understand what the Twitter means. Don't know what # stands for
Author silicone Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 I'm not the kind of person who puts relationship status on facebook (single or otherwise unless I was engaged or married I think) so I can't think with that person's mind. If it was happening to me, I would ask my other half what the deal was with that and act accordingly. If I felt that he was fishing around or didn't care about my feelings, aI would probably see that as an indication of his character. The way I see it, it's not a big deal to respect another person's views and wishes and to compromise on the small stuff BUT you have to talk to them first. I don't understand what the Twitter means. Don't know what # stands for The reason I haven't bought it up yet is because its not a massive deal, but I am aware of it. She did say that she wanted to like some of my photos but didn't want other people to see :/ Twitter like a microblog, you can just shoot out little message publicly or to your followers. When I told my parents about my relationship, they didn't believe that I was in one based on her profile and what she had written and that what she said on her Twitter profile. Other people have brought it up, and what's worse, some girls are seeing my status as a challenge to get me. When it was not set or even single, I received more offers for sex and messages telling me that I'm fit or sexy etc.
Emilia Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 The reason I haven't bought it up yet is because its not a massive deal, but I am aware of it. She did say that she wanted to like some of my photos but didn't want other people to see :/ Twitter like a microblog, you can just shoot out little message publicly or to your followers. When I told my parents about my relationship, they didn't believe that I was in one based on her profile and what she had written and that what she said on her Twitter profile. Other people have brought it up, and what's worse, some girls are seeing my status as a challenge to get me. When it was not set or even single, I received more offers for sex and messages telling me that I'm fit or sexy etc. I know what Twitter is I just don't understand what # signifies. Anyway, probably makes no difference. Maybe it's time to pick an adult to be in a relationship with. I don't mean this in a flippant way. She is 18, she is a child (in my eyes anyway). She wants attention, she doesn't understand consequences, she is immature, etc. If you want commitment and a long term relationship, I think you should pick one who is capable of giving you one. Otherwise you will have crap like this to deal with every day. Ignore other girls, who cares what they think or what they want.
Million.to.1 Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 If you are "in a relationship" with a girl and her FB status is "single" and it's a problem for you, then you need to ask her about it. Or better still, update your relationship status and tag her as your partner. She will get a "relationship request" notification. If she ignores it, then you have your answer. Don't you? 2
Author silicone Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 I know what Twitter is I just don't understand what # signifies. Anyway, probably makes no difference. Maybe it's time to pick an adult to be in a relationship with. I don't mean this in a flippant way. She is 18, she is a child (in my eyes anyway). She wants attention, she doesn't understand consequences, she is immature, etc. If you want commitment and a long term relationship, I think you should pick one who is capable of giving you one. Otherwise you will have crap like this to deal with every day. Ignore other girls, who cares what they think or what they want. She's demonstrated that she is capable of being mature as per her dealing with her sex change therapy. The other girls go on immediate block on Facebook, I have no time for them. If you are "in a relationship" with a girl and her FB status is "single" and it's a problem for you, then you need to ask her about it. Or better still, update your relationship status and tag her as your partner. She will get a "relationship request" notification. If she ignores it, then you have your answer. Don't you? Maybe I will once this is sorted, it's just not a priority.
Emilia Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 She's demonstrated that she is capable of being mature as per her dealing with her sex change therapy. Well not necessarily I don't think. She doesn't come across mature at all with these attention seeking behaviours - but it's your choice I guess.
Emilia Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 If she ignores it, then you have your answer. Don't you? Yes pretty much
Author silicone Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 Well not necessarily I don't think. She doesn't come across mature at all with these attention seeking behaviours - but it's your choice I guess. Yes pretty much I'll see what happens, what would you say the attention seeking behaviours are?
Emilia Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 I'll see what happens, what would you say the attention seeking behaviours are? Setting your facebook status on 'single' (usually done to get attention)Having a Twitter accountPosting personal comments on a Twitter account
Author silicone Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 Setting your facebook status on 'single' (usually done to get attention)Having a Twitter accountPosting personal comments on a Twitter account I have a Twitter account but I use it for more than micro blogging, in fact a lot of teenagers have Twitter and post to it. The first one, when I wasn't in a relationship, I didn't even have it set.
Million.to.1 Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Maybe you and your 'girlfriend' should try having a relationship in REALITY rather than on Fakebook or twatter.
Author silicone Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 Maybe you and your 'girlfriend' should try having a relationship in REALITY rather than on Fakebook or twatter. We do, albeit an LDR relationship.
Emilia Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 We do, albeit an LDR relationship. How frequently do you meet?
Author silicone Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 How frequently do you meet? I've only just got back from Florida whilst she was in France for the mo this before I left to fit my original timetable, we're due to spend a week together on the week of the 16th Oct
Emilia Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 I've only just got back from Florida whilst she was in France for the mo this before I left to fit my original timetable, we're due to spend a week together on the week of the 16th Oct Perhaps you can talk about how the two of you view the future of your relationship then
Author silicone Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 Perhaps you can talk about how the two of you view the future of your relationship then Oh I plan on doing that with her. The plan was simple, for me to do my training abroad whilst she underwent sex change treatment. Plans changed, I'm back in the country.
runner Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 i could care less. she could even unfriend me if she wanted to. i'm sure the sex will be just as nice.
Emilia Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 i could care less. she could even unfriend me if she wanted to. i'm sure the sex will be just as nice. hahaha that's the spirit I unfriended an ex when we broke up first time and we never bothered reconnecting through facebook even though we got together again 1
runner Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 and now, for a friendly public service announcement from your local .
Author silicone Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 hahaha that's the spirit I unfriended an ex when we broke up first time and we never bothered reconnecting through facebook even though we got together again and now, for a friendly public service announcement from your local . To me, there's so much more than sex in a relationship. In a years time, I'll probably be working and devoid of social situations.
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