Abad Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Long story short, my ex and I broke up in late November 2011. We share a one year old together (no court just an agreement for now). I started seeing someone else in late January temporarily until June and my ex wanted me back in between the time and I didn't feel it was right. After he tried for about 3 months he found another girl the next day. They have been together ever since almost 6 months now. We have went from no contact going through my mom switching days until she started daycare in August. If we did run into each other he would throw his gf in my face about how much he liked her and he's lucky he found her then drifted to ignoring me. He bought another phone to contact me with and blocked my number from his regular phone. Now this past week he has been calling me for dumb reasons other than the baby and wanting to know about my personal life. This Saturday he drunk texted me off of his regular phone wanting pics of me and to unblock my Facebook. He texted me the next day saying he was sorry and if my number was blocked still it wouldn't have happened and that he needs it blocked just for him since we have a history together and all. He asked if I wouldn't tell his gf which I didn't. He also said he was reblocking my number but hasn't. The next day he wrote on his gfs wall how she's such a great person and how well she's been doing in school. What is his deal? What were his intentions? He called me before he was drunk so I don't understand why he's telling her how much he cares but talking to me behind her back!!! Forgot to mention she works at our child's daycare and has the same school schedule as him. Why is he doing this to me?
Mike_d Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 he's not right at the moment it sounds. just ignore him, be the best mom you can be. you don't want somebody that is that up and down/manic in your life
Author Abad Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 Thanks for your response. I really wanted a guys point of view right now ignoring him is hard I obviously want my family back and I told him I won't talk to him as long as he has a gf. I'm just not sure if I chased him off now that I'm not showing any emotion. Again thank you
Mike_d Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 you can't "want" your way into a solution, lol trust me on this and don't ask how I know If you have chased him off then you've done the best thing since he wasn't really there in the first place. Set good boundaries, and do your best to keep them. Sounds like you are on the right track right now. Make a list of the bad things to help remind you of why you are doing what you are doing. Many many times the mind will work to trick you, or work to soften the bad memories. Later on after you have your feet under you a bit better it will be ok to look back fondly, but right now that is not a good thing, better to have brutal naked honesty in front of you at all times so that you can maintain your emotional strength.
Author Abad Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 I totally agree and understand exactly. I guess as much as I wanted answers from him and I finally know what he's thinking it was probably best to not know. This always happens with us and with a child I told him I refuse to go back and forth. We also have an agreement that if its meant to be it will work out later on and I have a feeling He wanted to see If I was still waiting on his leash. I guess he got a rude awakening lol.
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