Author kingdork Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 Kingdork. The thing about her "power". Isn't just about this term and how she can effect you. Her superiors have power, and are judging her on how ethically she acts. You have to consider how a relationship between you could harm her career if it's not handled just right. I promise you that I understand this completely. My rant about power was in response to a poster who claimed that the woman in question would be turned off by me since I'm in a less powerful role than her as her student. It had nothing to do with the ethical considerations of the situation. I think if you read my posts it's pretty clear that I understand the dynamics, and the reason I'm asking for advice is so I'll be able to manage the ethical considerations while also responding to her signals of interest.
Author kingdork Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 (edited) What subject is the class, if it is your major then that will be a good reason to stay in contact with her as you share the same professional goals. Also, its odd that there are no men in the class, perhaps she is just not used to being around attractive men in a predominantly female subject. The class isn't in my major, however I also have career aspirations in academia, so there's definitely a lot of common ground. Yeah, it is a little odd that there's very few men in the class, however our school has a consistent 60/40 female/male ratio, thus 20/4 in one particular class isn't an unbelievable abberation. (and since i can already envision the multitude of responses along the lines of "60/40 f/m - just find another girl!", yes: except i'm ~10 years older than the average student, so it would be kinda creepy to go hitting on other undergrads.) Edited September 27, 2012 by kingdork
RogerWallace111 Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 There might be some rules against her dating students but you should maintain contact so she doesn't lose interest. You should try to talk to her at least every class, and at least give her your e-mail address, personal e-mail, IM name, phone number, etc. just so she knows how to contact you. Facebook friend her, and just lay the groundwork for when you can officially date. What subject is the class, if it is your major then that will be a good reason to stay in contact with her as you share the same professional goals. Also, its odd that there are no men in the class, perhaps she is just not used to being around attractive men in a predominantly female subject. THIS ^ Establish a friendly, but real & unique relationship with her that transcends daily classroom life a bit. If you want to play it safe, don't be the one to initiate anything blatantly romantic at this point. But asking if she wants to get coffee while discussing an assignment wouldn't be overstepping your bounds imo. Just do it in a friendly, business-like fashion- not looking deep into her eyes speaking with your player voice 1
Author kingdork Posted September 28, 2012 Author Posted September 28, 2012 THIS ^ Establish a friendly, but real & unique relationship with her that transcends daily classroom life a bit. If you want to play it safe, don't be the one to initiate anything blatantly romantic at this point. But asking if she wants to get coffee while discussing an assignment wouldn't be overstepping your bounds imo. Just do it in a friendly, business-like fashion- not looking deep into her eyes speaking with your player voice Amazing advice, Thank you.
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