ImperfectionisBeauty Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 I'm not going to get super excited because I just started talking to him today but he's cute, he seems nice and he wants a long term relationship... Sounds pretty damn good to me! 1
amaysngrace Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 That's wonderful. Please just take it slow. Remember ACTIONS...not words.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 That's wonderful. Please just take it slow. Remember ACTIONS...not words. I'm going to make him wait a long time before I sleep with him. I literally just started talking to him today he messaged me on okcupid and then we talked on fb ))))) now were texting )))))))))
whichwayisup Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Don't do the 'online' thing for too long. Get out there and have a real date. Maybe dinner and movie or shoot some pool. Keep it casual and light. In the meantime, talk on the phone! don't just talk to him through text and fb. (though you shouldn't add eachother on fb so quickly...) Get to know him without it getting physical. 3
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 Don't do the 'online' thing for too long. Get out there and have a real date. Maybe dinner and movie or shoot some pool. Keep it casual and light. In the meantime, talk on the phone! don't just talk to him through text and fb. (though you shouldn't add eachother on fb so quickly...) Get to know him without it getting physical. I always add people on fb quickly I thought that was normal?
veggirl Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 I always add people on fb quickly I thought that was normal? Considering you are 21 it probably is. how old is he? I would refrain from getting tooooo excited too soon, you don't even know this guy! I could msg you and say I'm looking for a LTR too lol.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 Considering you are 21 it probably is. how old is he? I would refrain from getting tooooo excited too soon, you don't even know this guy! I could msg you and say I'm looking for a LTR too lol. Idk how old he is :/ but he goes to my college so he's like my age probably a little older
veggirl Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 well girl, ask him how old he is!! I am not sure most 21 yr old guys are looking for a serious ltr.....?
whichwayisup Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 I always add people on fb quickly I thought that was normal? Ahh k...It's my age group then. I forgot you're in your 20's.. Forget what I said about the not adding on fb. Though I do still think it's a nice way to get to know someone is to talk to them on the phone, hear their voice instead of just reading words on screen/phone.
Minka333 Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Just enjoy your time knowing this guy. You are only 21. You will still have a long list of nice, jerk, crazy, decent and insane men to meet. As you grow older, you will get wiser. You will somehow learn to filter and weed out those who are just complete waste of time. But whatever happens, please don't allow a man to disrespect you. Let them know that you are a valuable person. You teach them how to treat you. Men often respond to how far they can usually get. If they truly love you, trust me they will stay. 2
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 Just enjoy your time knowing this guy. You are only 21. You will still have a long list of nice, jerk, crazy, decent and insane men to meet. As you grow older, you will get wiser. You will somehow learn to filter and weed out those who are just complete waste of time. But whatever happens, please don't allow a man to disrespect you. Let them know that you are a valuable person. You teach them how to treat you. Men often respond to how far they can usually get. If they truly love you, trust me they will stay. I waited a month with my ex so I think over a month needs to happen
xpaperxcutx Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 sorry but if I find u incredibly naive if u think every guy who wants an ltr actually wants one with you. take the emotional connection down a notch... you're jumping the gun. until ue has proven himself by asking you out and making it obvious he wants you for a gf you have to stop thinking every guy that comes along is the percect one for u. 1
BetheButterfly Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 sorry but if I find u incredibly naive if u think every guy who wants an ltr actually wants one with you. take the emotional connection down a notch... you're jumping the gun. until ue has proven himself by asking you out and making it obvious he wants you for a gf you have to stop thinking every guy that comes along is the percect one for u. Sadly, some guys say they want a long term relationship when they really don't. Actions speak a lot louder than words. I very much hope he does and that he and the OP get to know each other and hopefully connect on a deep level! Be careful OP. I hope he is great though! Time will tell.
BetheButterfly Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Just enjoy your time knowing this guy. You are only 21. You will still have a long list of nice, jerk, crazy, decent and insane men to meet. As you grow older, you will get wiser. You will somehow learn to filter and weed out those who are just complete waste of time. But whatever happens, please don't allow a man to disrespect you. Let them know that you are a valuable person. You teach them how to treat you. Men often respond to how far they can usually get. If they truly love you, trust me they will stay. Super advice!!!
CarrieT Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 sorry but if I find u incredibly naive if u think every guy who wants an ltr actually wants one with you. take the emotional connection down a notch... you're jumping the gun. until ue has proven himself by asking you out and making it obvious he wants you for a gf you have to stop thinking every guy that comes along is the percect one for u. I'm going to reiterate this point. Not every guy that wants a long-term relationship wants one with YOU. Just talking to a guy for one night - and this is texting/messaging and not even talking?!?! - does NOT a relationship make! A "relationship" takes time and cultivation. You are already bonding because you started chatting? Yes, take the emotional connection down a notch. As many of us have said, your desperation to be in a relationship is so appalling and will scare away most guys from being with you long term.
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