Teknoe Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 This girl initiated me to come over Saturday to pick something up. I wasn't quite sure what so I asked for clarification 2 hours later. She then turned cold on me (don't know if she got busy or what, but her responses were slow and she's usually not like that). I also asked if she wanted to see a movie later that night but she was very non-committal so I dropped it. Then I emailed her later that same night to ask if she could help me out Sunday. When I received no reply by Sunday afternoon, I called her and it went to (full) voice mail box. She has not contacted me since, nor have I. Feels a bit weird. We were talking quite a bit the past couple months... but after she asked me to come over and I "didn't jump on it" per se, she got pretty cold on me it seems. I don't know if she got busy but at least I would have appreciated a reply from her. So now I almost want to ask her "Hey what happened Sunday?" but I don't want to come across as overly needy. But on the other hand, what about respect? When I was busy, at least I told her so. I honestly feel like I have been dissed. At the very least she could have sent me a text Sunday saying "Sorry can't make it!" Instead, she left me hanging in suspense. I dunno if I should ask her about this, or just drop it. Is it self-respect if I call her out on it, or is it me being overly dramatic and sensitive if I DO call her out on it? Which one is it? So I'm not sure what to do. I tell myself "no contact" until she contacts me, but everyday something happens that makes me wanna text her, but so far I've displayed pretty good self control. Any thoughts? I wonder if I don't contact her again, when she will contact me next and with what bit of info? I don't know but I think I offended her when I didn't jump on her Saturday offer of coming over. I was busy and couldn't respond until 2 hours later, and when I did, I might have came off as wishy washy. i.e. instead of saying sure what's your address? I was like "What cards are you talking about? Are you home? I can stop by" I dunno, maybe I'm overthinking it again. Any thoughts appreciated
FitChick Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 She wants you to pick something up at her house. So do it. I doubt she is interested in anything else.
MrCastle Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 She's definitely playing games. The more technological we get as a society, the harder it is for flakes/uninterested people to claim "i'm busy". For ****'s sake, people post pictures to facebook while they're at work. In this day and age, if people want to contact you, they can. If they want to respond to you, they will. She's lost interest, probably because she's upset about the Saturday thing, who knows. Do NOT contact her. At all. You've already contacted her. The ball is in her court.
Author Teknoe Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 Do NOT contact her. At all. You've already contacted her. The ball is in her court. Yeah my friend said the same thing. I came close, but I held back. Guess what, she texted me tonight. She sounded down and out, and asked for me to call her. Unfortunately, once again, I did not have my phone on me. I ended up calling her about 50 minutes later, and she didn't pick up. Possibly already went to bed. So I left her a text message. I'll call her tomorrow and see what's up. Sounds dramatic, whatever it is. I'm sad she's sad, but I'm happy I waited for her to contact me next.
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