ponette Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 on the road walking his dog. was about 5 feet away and he was walking toward the oncoming traffic. don't know if he saw me, thinking he must've. just stared straight ahead, not at him. lotta traffic. uggh.
thembones Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 I went through something similar within the first month of my Ex dropping me. I was driving stopped at a light in front of her work and she was walking to her car. She could not have been more than 10 feet from me. I have a loud stereo system and was playing a Doors song called, "Touch Me". Basically the words that were playing was something like .." I'm gonna love you until the heaven's stop the rain...". So, it could not have been a worse part of the song. She told me she saw me, but I was shocked and felt like an idiot. **** happens, it sucks It was good of you to not look at him though. You may never know if he did actually see you, but does it really matter? Yeah, it sucks even seeing them, but just go about your life. Best of luck.
Author ponette Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 we haven't talked in 6 weeks. i hope he saw me and that it gets his wheels turning.
thembones Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Absence makes the heart grow fonder. That is what I thought, being visible would make things different. I was wrong. I am not saying absence is the only way to go, but I can't put myself in the position to see or be seen by them, again. It may have been counter-productive if he did see you again. It all depends on him.
Author ponette Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 i haven't seen or spoken to him during the last 6 weeks. it was accidental that i saw him today, as i am not a stalker. why would it be counterproductive? i wish you'd clarify a bit.
thembones Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Some people think that absence makes the heart grow fonder. Meaning, if he sees you now, it will make him think about the things that made you break up. If you were to be completely removed from his life and he were to not hear from you or see you, it may make him miss you more. One could say that him seeing you makes his "missing" process start all over again from square one. It is just one perspective, but it is a well-known saying for a reason.
Author ponette Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 i've been removed from his life for the last 6 weeks! total absence. doesn't count? sounds like you don't think that's long enough.
thembones Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 i've been removed from his life for the last 6 weeks! total absence. doesn't count? sounds like you don't think that's long enough. I am going through the same thing you are and basically the same time frame. I am just going off what others have told me and what I am trying to employ. I do not have much advice to give, but that is what I have. I am not saying it does not count. I cannot tell you what the other person is thinking, unfortunately.
Author ponette Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 you said in your last post that your ex had told you she saw you. if she told you she saw you, then you guys are in contact . i have NOT seen nor spoken with my ex. today is the first time i've seen him.
thembones Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Yes we did. I asked for closure because I had so many unanswered questions. It was probably a mistake, but at least now I know some things. It is a chance thing and you cannot prevent it. If you live close, it is bound to happen.
Author ponette Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 i'm SUPER frustrated here. i haven't heard from this person in six weeks. no call, email or text. nothing. we've been together for 5 years. it's f.ucking killing me. i can't stand it any more. i get so upset hearing about people complaining that their ex contacts them WHEN I GET NOTHING. i'm sick, heartbroken, losing it. i feel invisible, like i've been erased. like i never knew this guy. i was in my car and saw him today...there was a lot of traffic in front and behind, but i know he saw me. i was afraid. i hoped he'd see me and it would get his mind going. i'm just so sad and in so much pain. i need support desperately.
witmadskilllz Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 (edited) i'm SUPER frustrated here. i haven't heard from this person in six weeks. no call, email or text. nothing. we've been together for 5 years. it's f.ucking killing me. i can't stand it any more. i get so upset hearing about people complaining that their ex contacts them WHEN I GET NOTHING. i'm sick, heartbroken, losing it. i feel invisible, like i've been erased. like i never knew this guy. i was in my car and saw him today...there was a lot of traffic in front and behind, but i know he saw me. i was afraid. i hoped he'd see me and it would get his mind going. i'm just so sad and in so much pain. i need support desperately. Don't worry, we're all in the same boat, literally. If this makes you feel any better.. I was with my ex for a year, broke up, she ended up sleeping with one of her old high school friend after 2 weeks of breakup. What's even worse is that through mutual friends, I heard that they were still going good and are in a relationship, very good couple they say. I stayed NC afterwards for 2 years and still counting, and guess what? My ex is still in the same relationship. But what about me? Absolutely nothing but misery. Life is short hun, dating is all about options now, you'll soon find someone who will cherish you, love you for everything you are. So long as you keep NC, and keep ranting here, you will be fine. If it weren't for the loveshack community, I would've been even more lost. Edited September 27, 2012 by witmadskilllz
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