Flygirl Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 Seeing a great guy. One of the best men I've ever met. We've been seeing eachother for 4 month going into 5 months. He's a slow get to know you kinda guy and this is so new for me! It's working great for the most part. And sometimes treats me like just a friend which is confusing. As an example, when we're parting he'll say "thanks for coming along" and that's just strange to me. We've been sleeping together for several months and he's very loving. I feel a little let down because he rarely says endearing things to me. In reading posts I understand more and will as him "what does taking it slow" mean. I want to move forward and fall in love with him but don't which brings me down and creates distance between us. Hanging in there because he's so great. So it brings me to tonight. Maybe taking it slow is a good thing because after I left him today which was about 7p, he said he had to work outside (he has a deadline with this) and I just called him it's now it's 9:30p and dark and he's not there. I overheard his friend tell him that he was going to these various places and I'm thinking he's there with him. I'm thinking hummmmmmm did he lie to me? Brings a new twist to it...coupled with the fact he is guarded with sharing his feelings, I feel concerned. Sometimes I feel like "we are just having sex and are friends" which leaves me kinda cold and one point I wanted to break it off. He told me he cared for me and it took alot for him to say that. He was in tears. We are both divorced and for quite a while. He was married for years and is divorced for 3. Me for 10 years. I'm not feeling good about this thing tonight and thought I'd ask some experiences from others. [font=arial][/font]
faux Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 It may be a good idea to have a lengthy discussion with this man about the status of your relationship. Ask him precisely what he considers to be going on, how he feels about the relationship, and what he expects out of it. Voice your opinions as well on these topics, and be certain that when he answers you, his responses leave you with no questions and no doubts in your mind. Explain to him what makes you uncomfortable, and ask him anything that you really wish to know. Understanding one another's views on this situation, I think, is very important. Once you know how he feels about things, and he understands your feelings and views, you will be able to make a better decision about what you should do.
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