aa112211 Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 So this girl I work with. She flirts with everyone. But she stares at me when I sit across from her. I catch her looking at me and she quickly looks away. She makes comment to me like "I wish I worked with you everyday". She makes up excuses to stop by my house every couple months. One time was bored and went out driving and drove by my house. She always seems to find her way over by me at work. She treats me differently than others and I'm not the only one that noticed. I went on vacation for 2 weeks she is texting me like every other day. And liking my pics of myself on facebook. She will sit there and stare in my eyes and say nothing. Then if I suggest hanging out it's I only want to be friends. So I asked her to do something and she ignored me. Then said she just wants to hang out as friends. She has an ex I am sure she is still in love with. They broke up like 10 months ago. And he is moving away this week. She has been acting really distant from me this week. So is this all because she isn't over the ex and is confused. Or is she just acting this way around me to get attention. I am at the point where I am gonna stop talking to her outside of work but I know she will come chasing after me in a month or so.
ThaWholigan Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 So this girl I work with. She flirts with everyone. But she stares at me when I sit across from her. I catch her looking at me and she quickly looks away. She makes comment to me like "I wish I worked with you everyday". She makes up excuses to stop by my house every couple months. One time was bored and went out driving and drove by my house. She always seems to find her way over by me at work. She treats me differently than others and I'm not the only one that noticed. I went on vacation for 2 weeks she is texting me like every other day. And liking my pics of myself on facebook. She will sit there and stare in my eyes and say nothing. Then if I suggest hanging out it's I only want to be friends. So I asked her to do something and she ignored me. Then said she just wants to hang out as friends. She has an ex I am sure she is still in love with. They broke up like 10 months ago. And he is moving away this week. She has been acting really distant from me this week. So is this all because she isn't over the ex and is confused. Or is she just acting this way around me to get attention. I am at the point where I am gonna stop talking to her outside of work but I know she will come chasing after me in a month or so. Attention seeking it seems. She wants to hang out as friends, but when you start to treat her as such, she makes these hope-inspiring comments to you. Don't fall for it. She wants your attention and nothing more. Ignore those "signs" and don't put stock into it. Be civil, friendly, but do NOT attempt to pursue anything unless she actually shows ironclad interest in you.
darkmoon Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 "So I asked her to do something" what was the something?
Author aa112211 Posted September 26, 2012 Author Posted September 26, 2012 She will eventually want to stop by again and I am going to tell her no. Will she get the point then or come chasing more.
Author aa112211 Posted September 26, 2012 Author Posted September 26, 2012 "So I asked her to do something" what was the something? not the something you are thinking of. I said I was gonna try making a drink out of apple cider. She said that sounds fun. I said well you can stop by and we can try making it. And she just ignored me. Couldn't even tell me no thanks
ThaWholigan Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 She will eventually want to stop by again and I am going to tell her no. Will she get the point then or come chasing more. It doesn't matter if you let her "stop by" or not, the point is do not fall for her or start to get infatuated. She's just eggs-up, she might be a nice enough girl by all accounts, but if you are getting mixed signals, do not get caught in the trap of analyzing them, because you will start to interpret every little thing as positive or negative.
darkmoon Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 (edited) not the something you are thinking of. I said I was gonna try making a drink out of apple cider. She said that sounds fun. I said well you can stop by and we can try making it. And she just ignored me. Couldn't even tell me no thanks no, i jus wondered, she sounds like a princess, i think ThaWholigan is being generous, she must be quite young to be behave like that (under 30) she'll be back, a man that can concoct a drink from apple cider is witty/a laugh - just dump her and go where you'll be appreciated Edited September 26, 2012 by darkmoon
bob the brave Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 ThaWolagin is right - an attention getter. You say she treats you different than other guys, but she still flirts with everyone? For some reason, some girls like to be constantly reassured they can get guys around them, but yet don't acutally want them. I guess it's based on some sort insecurity. I would say stop trying to read motives in her actions. Just relax be a friend and have fun, but look for meaning elsewhere.
Author aa112211 Posted September 26, 2012 Author Posted September 26, 2012 no, i jus wondered, she sounds like a princess, i think ThaWholigan is being generous, she must be quite young to be behave like that (under 30) she'll be back, a man that can concoct a drink from apple cider is witty - just dump her and go where you'll be appreciated Well its cider and everclear and apple juice. She will probably be back. But its a little weird now because I let her know I didn't appreciate being ignored. I told her she could at least have enough respect for me to tell me no.
ThaWholigan Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 no, i jus wondered, she sounds like a princess, i think ThaWholigan is being generous, she must be quite young to be behave like that (under 30) she'll be back, a man that can concoct a drink from apple cider is witty/a laugh - just dump her and go where you'll be appreciated I am being a little generous. I would personally disappear 1
Author aa112211 Posted September 26, 2012 Author Posted September 26, 2012 I am being a little generous. I would personally disappear I have to work with her. So the best I could do is pay no attention to her outside of work
ThaWholigan Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 I have to work with her. So the best I could do is pay no attention to her outside of work Better that. Be civil but don't pay attention.
insertnamehere Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 I let her know I didn't appreciate being ignored. I told her she could at least have enough respect for me to tell me no. Welp. So much for all that. Whatever hope you had is gone. Close up shop and move on. Women jerk guys around. That's how it works. The trick is to not freak out. You have to go into things with zero expectations and just have fun. She doesn't owe you anything. And, yes, she is engaged in obnoxious attention-seeking behavior. But, it's not the man's role to turn that around and demand attention himself. It's the man's role to draw her out by being cool. You didn't achieve that. Game. Set. Match.
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