Hindsight_is_20_20 Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 I know, I KNOW after a breakup it seems that we are more prone to making stupid decisions. I have been on the straight and narrow, trying not to do too many things I wouldn't normally do in a healthy frame of mind but of COURSE the first friend's party I go to I meet a guy I'm semi attracted to. First one since my breakup over 4 months ago. He couldn't wait to tear my clothes. Butwait for it......... I find out he's MARRIED! Dam* it. Really? REALLY? All night he's whispering things in my ear, trying to pull me into a back room and then finally when I have the guts enough to ask his friend what this guy's story is, he has an AWESOME wife back at home. Why would you do that if you have an awesome wife? Why am I attracted to a**holes? You want passion? You'll get passion but he'll be effing married or hiding some stupid ish because he's spontaneous and intense. Intense = not stable. I just wanted a one night stand and I can't even do that properly!
Mike_d Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 I just wanted a one night stand and I can't even do that properly! Hi there... you look ravishing tonight, we *need* to have a drink together <takes hand, leads you to bar, orders champagne for 2> seriously, there are plenty of solid intense guys out there who are not married. All you did was learn one more check point to clear before engaging next time. keep at it, you'll rock one guys world and make him a very happy man when he least expects it. Don't be too hard on yourself, sh.t happens, learn and adjust
Author Hindsight_is_20_20 Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 The last few nights the dreams are back. It's been 4 months and now they're back again? Anyone else have this happen? It feels like back tracking. They dreams are always about him and someone else. Everything in me wants to pack up and leave this area for awhile but I have my job, I can't. Maybe for a few days or a weekend. I don't know. I'm glad I at least felt a somewhat attraction for someone last weekend. I don't want to get into another relationship at all. I thought I was ready for something casual. Maybe I'm not if this incident can set me back. Now what?
Mike_d Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 for me it's hard right now to figure out what "casual" is. after coming from something where it was 24/7, going to something that is a night here, some time there - seems really... ummm... meh I guess for lack of a better word. it's like "what's the point?" And then I think that I'm overthinking it. But I enjoy being around people so I just try to roll with things. And the dreams, that stuff comes in waves. It's just the mind doing what it needs to. Don't read too much into it, whatever happens is what happens, the big thing is just keep moving forward. Now what?? Smile, put together a gratitude list, phone 2 friends, write in your journal, take a walk/ride/hike, run, workout, dress up and give the one night stand another go, volunteer. Live life as best you can in the moment, and know that some moments will be better than others, you're doing great, honestly
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