trying to divorce but he wont co operate

[patsi]

hi, just a quick intro to my situation, have found this site very helpful so far...... my husband is Cuban and I am from UK he is not willing to help me although he says he wants divorce as much as I do....

Finding this stuff very hard emotionally and practically, I think he may have married just to get to Uk then other times I feel we really loved each other...... Help! just confused anyone out there understand? xx

[Sameold]

wowzers.

 

What is the background? How old are you two? How did you meet etc?

[patsi]

i am 54 he is 45 we met in Cuba through a friend of mine married since 2008 he told a mutual friend he was going to leave me as soon as he got his visa........ i think its pretty clear i have been scammed i guess, but it is still real for me and it hurts.............

[darkmoon]

i am 54 he is 45 we met in Cuba through a friend of mine married since 2008 he told a mutual friend he was going to leave me as soon as he got his visa........ i think its pretty clear i have been scammed i guess, but it is still real for me and it hurts.............

 

well, darling, eat drink and be merry xx

have a holiday, get rid of the cobwebs

[Yasuandio]

if you believe your friend, I would head straight for the imagration ofice and report your suspitions immediately. AND SAY NOTHING TO HIM. He will only try to convince you your friend is lying to you.

 

I was married to a foreigner too. He did have a green card when we married. But something unknown to me happened with immigration during our four year separation - that required him to hire an expensive immagration attorney. As well, he became very deparate to obtain the marriage license at that time. I never found out what it was - nor do I need to care at this point.

 

You may need to care, if you are a career woman, trying to develop a life for yourself after you get away from him. And when someone wants to stretch the process out -- it is entirely possible. You have to think about things like your credit report that is now attached to him, as well as any debts he may run up, until your marriage is either found to be on false pretense, annuled, or desolved. Good luck. Yas

Edited September 28, 2012 by Yasuandio

[patsi]

to dark moon, yeah need another adventure, will never be marriage again however there are always other options..............!!!

 

to yas, its ok i am not a rich woman despite what he assumed! i am seeking legal advice at the mo and have made sure he will never be able to get his UK passport......... he messed with the wrong woman, i am mostly angry with moments of moodiness when i think of all i went through to get him here but know i have to let go of the resentment to recover x

[standtall]

Patsi..I would recommend just to divorce him quietly and move on. By getting retribution thrown upon him, you risk it yourself. The authorities have not been known to be rational, honest, nor fair in regards to immigration, and I would fear to be criminally connected to him. Watch out.

[Yasuandio]

Standtall makes an excellent point. And, therefore, I need to revise my position on this matter. I take back advising you to speak to any authority - other than your own attorney, period.

 

Perhaps discuss these ideas with your attorney. Get out of it - pay him off for divorce signature, do whatever you got to unravel yourself from this person.

 

You absolutely have to use your brains - and not listen to your heart. Shut the doors on your feeling now - and get proactive about what needs to get done. Only take care of your own interests - don't worry about what he gets or scams out of the deal. It makes no difference in your world, period. Yas

Edited September 30, 2012 by Yasuandio