Wordsmith Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 Hey guys, this is a long story so be prepared I have asked in another forum but peoples answers weren't very clear or quite rude, aaaand I have over analyzed this situation due to lack of experience, so please only honest or nice replies. So, I've been at college for 2 weeks, and I'm completely interested in this girl since day 1. I haven't stopped thinking about her, and it's causing me to lack focus in class, and I'm losing sleep over it. Anyway, I spoke to her a little on the first week, and managed to become contacts on a social networking site we mutually use. So we spoke a bit, I expressed interest in meeting with her, which, 3rd time lucky we managed to do! The first time, I was going to meet her when she finished work, and I was on my break, but she forgot. Second time, she said she had to work. 3rd time I met her after work. So we spoke a bit, planned on meeting again the upcoming Friday, I did not speak a lie to her, I was vague in certain areas that I didn't feel comfortable talking about, but I was 100% honest. After about an hour we were kicked out of the cafe we were in because it was customer seating only, and she wanted to go home. She said she'd wait with me at the bus stop, since I'd done a lot of waiting already that day (I had other plans while she was at work), but I said she didn't need to worry about how I get home, and to let me walk her home. She said I could if I wanted to. Just after we left the cafe, she mentioned that she would have liked to stay there longer, and I said I would have bought something if she had said, and she made a comment over forgetting to bring her money. But she seemed unsure as to if she wanted to go home, or if she wanted to stay in the cafe. As she said both. About half way back, she said to me that she'd have offered to invite me in to her home, but everyone was there. I said that it was fine. When we got back to her place, and I was just leaving her, she said when I got home to message telling her if I got home safely. Which I did. Same night, she said to me she would be unable to make it on Friday because of a personal commitment upcoming, but wanted to go out for a meal and drink some other time, or after college sometime. I told her that was fine, just to let me know as I'd need to arrange it around work. So, we are in college 1 day a week together, and the next day was that day. I encountered her the once, while waiting for a friend of mine who was using the bathroom. She walked past me with a group of her friends. I feel like she gave me the cold shoulder here, as she glanced at me slightly, did the smallest and shortest smile, but carried on working. I was quite upset, and consulted a few friends over it. They've given mixed opinions, but I limited the people I spoke to. One of them said it was that she's interested in me, but doesn't really understand what's happening, and was shy amongst her friends. Another person said something similar, but it was that she didn't want her friends embarrassing her in front of me, while other people have said it's probably her way of telling me that she's not interested. Can some people please give me their honest views on this, I understand my lack of experience & over analysis doesn't help, but I've never been so interested in someone before. --Edijs, Latvia.
truth_seeker Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 Only way to get your answer is to talk to her. Call her up and ask her out again. I can tell you that she is unsure about you and is being cautious. You're both in college which means lots of options available. She might want to keep you on hold while she does some exploring. If I were you, ask her out again, and when you're out try to get a read on her. If she turns you down, then move onto other girls. Another piece of advice: if you ignore her, that might get her to chase you
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