EX: "Made a mistake but still unsure"

[Push_Through_It]

So a few months ago my gf tells me that she still has feelings for her ex and that she needs to see if they can work things out this time. We go NC for about 3 months and then out of the blue I get a "hope you are well" text from her. We sent small messages back and forth after that and it seemed like her purpose was to simply to see if enough time had passed for us to be friends.

 

It took me about another month before I was finally at a point where I was comfortable seeing her in person and so we went out for a drink. Talked, laughed, caught-up....no mention of her ex (have a feeling things didn't work out but don't know for sure) or of anything about how "we" ended. It was enjoyable and I walked away happy but also knowing that I still care very strongly about her.

 

That night I get a message that says she wanted to tell me earlier but she was scared and also really confused about everything still but that she was sorry and that it was a mistake. She then thanked me for being awesome and still wanting to be her friend.

 

 

The important thing right now is for me to manage my expectations and so I'm choosing to take the "I'm still confused" portion of her message as a sign that all she is looking for is friendship (which I still need to decide if I can accept just being friends).

 

But at the same time I know her personality and that she would never directly ask me to take her back. So I'm wondering if the "I made a mistake" portion is her way of asking this or if it's just simply her dealing with the guilt and nothing more than just breadcrumbs.

[Tiera D]

my recent ex used that line on me,i trolled her and go NC,unless you can accept being a secondary option i suggest you go NC too.Anybody with selve respect wont let an ex treat them like that

 

TD

[Darren Steez]

Ouch!! So ex tells you she still has feelings for an ex, dumps you and goes off with him, and now you want her back?

Personally I would let her go, you were and are second best and you "assume" things didn't go well with her ex/current/whatever, for all you know he's assuming everything is fine and she's playing the field. Anyway good luck to you.