Shes.wierd. Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 Ok, so im 18 (male). Im texting a girl who i met through a friend (its his sister). Been messaging each other for a long time now, 3+ months. At first everything was going fine, we agreed to meet up, it went really well! We carried on texting each other. Then she started to get a little wierd told me she was into bondage, being treated like a sex slave etc. At first this freaked me out a little, but now i like the idea of her being really experimental and up for a lot of stuff!!! Ok so, were at a point now where we send dirty messages to each other a lot, a few of my friends have seen them and they said its not normal. That doesnt bother me, I know shes a tad wierd and i like it, turns me on a little But know she wont agree to meet up any more, even tho shes still messaging me like this? She comes up with excuses like well ill probably be sleeping till bout 12-1ish. ok, thats no problem how bout the afternoon? No, ill probably be tired and resting! Really when u get up that late? You probably get my point, it feels like shes making up excuses not to see me! Yet she still texts me how she would like to have sex with me etc. Im confused and dont know where I stand! Ive tried asking her what she wants from this relationship, but she says she is unsure. Should i keep going at it? I do like her a lot. please any advice, or opinions would be greatly appreciated.
in_absentia Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 Any chance she's become aware of the fact that you show intimate sexual messages between the both of you to your friends? If I found out a guy had done that he'd never see me again.
Emilia Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 I think the whole thing got out of hand, she tried to impress you with her adventurousness, etc and now realised that you will want to call her on it. This kind of intimate stuff is best left to times when you have been dating for a while and there is trust. You are both also very young and that immaturity often means saying things that you don't really mean. She probably isn't as kinky as she makes out. 1
heather_1 Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 Sounds to me like she is playing you but I would turn this all around so that you gain some power from it. In a text tell how in a flirty sarcastic way how you're not sure if she has passed your tests yet to be a valid partner and the only way you'll be sure is if you meet up. If she doesnt meet up with you she clearly just wants to send some dirty texts
Author Shes.wierd. Posted September 26, 2012 Author Posted September 26, 2012 Im not sure? Because at first she seemed very interested, and we did some sexual activities toegether. Do yout think shes embarassed that she beleives I may ask her to do some of the stuff she says she likes? Should i try reassure her that i dont? And theres absolutely no chance that she would know my frined(s) know about the texts. We have different friends as we live quite far away the only person that we really both know is her brother? Thanks for the replies, but how she i get round this? I still am defiantly wanting to see her again.
Emilia Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 Im not sure? Because at first she seemed very interested, and we did some sexual activities toegether. Do yout think shes embarassed that she beleives I may ask her to do some of the stuff she says she likes? Should i try reassure her that i dont? Hmmm it's also possible that she is doing this to just get attention from you. I'm not patronising you I promise but the two of you are kids (I'm assuming she is the same age as you), so fickle at that age. She is completely immature The fact that you have had some kind of sex and she texts about sex makes me think she might be just a tease
Author Shes.wierd. Posted September 26, 2012 Author Posted September 26, 2012 I totally understand what you are all saying bout were immature. First one to admit that we are (well i am at least). But I really would like to see her again, as I do like her a lot. How would you all go about getting her back?
Emilia Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 I totally understand what you are all saying bout were immature. First one to admit that we are (well i am at least). But I really would like to see her again, as I do like her a lot. How would you all go about getting her back? The thing is if someone doesn't want to see you for whatever reason you can't do anything about it. I would not ask again because I think you asked enough times. I would tell her (but this might cut her off - be warned) that I don't want any of the sexy texts unless she wants to meet up with a specific day and time in mind. If she keeps teasing you and not put any action behind it you will have to cut her off I'm afraid.
Author Shes.wierd. Posted September 26, 2012 Author Posted September 26, 2012 Thank you very much for your reply, I will give it a go. And well if it all goes pear shaped, I suppose its not meant to be. you have been very helpfull and I think your right, if she doesnt agree to what I want, its obvious its not going to ever work. 1
Emilia Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 Thank you very much for your reply, I will give it a go. And well if it all goes pear shaped, I suppose its not meant to be. you have been very helpfull and I think your right, if she doesnt agree to what I want, its obvious its not going to ever work. Good luck There are lots of girls out there though 1
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