Sophia12345 Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 After 7 months of breaking up, being freinds, feeling hurt, feeling uneasy all the time I have finally pulled the plug on my ended 4 year relationship. Heres the text conversation: *We had been talking slightly but once again my ex was unable to uphold a proper stable conversation unless it was about him getting something out of it.* ME: You basically have me as a friend with the benefits of having me as a GF when you fancy it like LOL what am i doing, you cant even hold a conversation with me which is fine but im not going to be around for 'cuddles'when you fancy it you can find some other mug to cater to you. You openly broke up with me so fine were broke up but that means broken up not telling me youd be able to be with another girl whilst im laying in your bed like im f**king deluded even letting this happen i need a slap or something. The last thing i want to do is completely leave us but I feel like your giving me no option as ive done everything i possibly can this past year and got crap back and have just let it go on ive just had enough now. EX:What am i meant to say to that :S, i dont know what you want me to say sophx ME: Just leave me alone (name) x Ex: what the f**k ok :S Ex: what have i done :S? Me: I Dont want to be an option anymore, the 'home' when your bored and have no other plans x ex: your not but whatever okay then xx me: actions speak louder than words (name) saying that means nothing when you treat me like I am. Saying the Only thing im good for is cuddles do you know how that makes me feel lol? Youve got (his girl bestfriends name) to spend all your time with and shell do whatever you want because she is clearly in love with you or whatever i'd rather sit on my own than hear about how much time yous now spend together like its hell hearing you speak about it and thats all i do hear when i eventually see you. You want me in your life put me there if you dont let me go xx Ex: well look im sorry but shes like my best mate and i only wind you up most of the time but im sorry if it bothers you. Atm im fairly okay with things and well i dont really want a girlfriend i mean i really dont want to loose you as a freind coz obviously youll allways be a huge part of my life but im really sorry but atm i havent got time for a girlfriend I work a **** load and when im not all i wanna do is sleep and see my mates. You still class as a mate to be but im sorry if thats not good enough the decision is yours xx ME: well then thats it then but remember youve made this choice because you know if it was up to me we wouldnt be in this situation.I love you but freinds isnt fair on you either cause ill allways want more x Ex: well its not me actually but okay and i love you too allways will believe it or not if thats the way its gotta be then okay x Im unsure how to take this, i mean i finally did it but i allready wish i hadnt. It feels like im breaking up with him all over again ERGH
Dblock10 Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 basically you cant win because he doesn't care that much.. i think what you said is right but because you let anger out it was easier for him to defend himself and twist it onto you being almost crazy, when im sure he in fact is far from the victim
Million.to.1 Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 You did the right thing. He is not available in the way you want, and being friends is hurting you, so this was a good move. Stay strong. YOU DID THE RIGHT THING. Don't look back. 3
soccerrprp Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 i'm going through something similar. it hasn't gotten to the point where i will need to give the ultimatum, but it's looking that way. for me, though, i'm less emotionally attached, so it will be easier. you did good to end it. good luck.
Author Sophia12345 Posted September 26, 2012 Author Posted September 26, 2012 Thanks for the reassurance guys, as much as it hurts I guess im doing the right thing i dont really know.... All my freinds have gone to uni so in some ways maybe i was only hanging onto him not to be lonely? I guess ive done the best thing, only time will tell
shayla Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 He's good at manipulating, I can see that from the conversation, and it's lovely the way he kept trying to twist it around so that it's all YOUR DECISION, that you made because of HIS ACTIONS. It's their favorite game of all. Don't fall for it. Always do what's right for you and treat what he's saying like a stale fart, because that's all it is. Hot stank air.
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