8542sd Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 (edited) my bf of 7months said me a week ago that he is not sure of both of us being together in future. he is going abroad for studies and he thinks he may fall for another women there in my absence. he doesn't want to cheat me so he is aking for a 'kind of breakup'now. he is asking me to give him some time to get over his confusion of whether he really loves me or not. it had been truly great this seven months. he loved me since past 5 years but proposed me just 7 months ago. everything was just so great. i love him more than my life now and i m not ready to lose him. he has asked me not to wait for him. he says he would marry me today if he was to stay in the same country.but as this is not so he is not sure of his own. he really behaved ridiculous for past 3 days. each morning he would wake up with his confusions ,try to be just FRIENDS with me the whole day asking me not to say "i love you "to him. but at the end of the day he would cry and finally at night he used to hug me saying -"sweetheart i just can't let u go, i love only u" but again waking up to same confusions the next morning. what should i do? i feel so miserable. Edited September 26, 2012 by 8542sd
lukas Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 I was in your shoes about 3 years ago now and we did break up. It was for the best in the long run. I know it will hurt a lot now, but at least it will leave you with favourable memories of one another instead of a broken heart due to a cheating lover
Minka333 Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 He is confused. He knows the chances of separation is high. He knows temptation, loneliness and distance will play a huge factor in your relationship. He is not sure of himself and how he would handle those things when they happen. It's like he is already showing you premonitions. At least he is being honest but at the same time scared to lose you. 1
Author 8542sd Posted September 26, 2012 Author Posted September 26, 2012 thanks for your replies. he talked to me today very nicely but was baffled at me and i felt he is irritated on how the things are going around. he asked for the breakup. i m not recieving his calls and not answering his msgs,maybe coz i m not strong enough now to hear a goodbye. as well as i think he would be more stable if i don't talk to him for some days. he had some problems concerning his visa today so he may be a bit upset coz of dat. am i doing right?? i love him so much and i know that he loves (loved ??) me too!! should i be ready for final breakup now? though i want to save this relationship at any cost.
Author 8542sd Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 Yesterday we had a short conversation over chat. He went offline and came back after 15 minutes. He wrote- I m back. Suddenly I felt something and wrote- u know what..it feels so good whenever you say-I'M BACK!! Then he told me that he WANTS to come back but is afraid. He asked me to give him time,not try to catch him(what i am not doing) and let him come back on his own,naturally. He said-"give me some time .Either the fear will die or I will. " I told him that he has all his time. Yet i m scared if this relationship is going to work again or not... and i am not able to understand what his psychology is at the moment? Will anybody help me to understand him???
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