Blueman12 Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 I've been nc for about a week, and the week before we only spoke once...long story short she left me for her ex but still has feelings for me--they clearly Are not as strong as her feelings for him, they had 3+ years together... I really want to break nc and just tell her I miss her--is that a horrible idea? I truly feel like she is the one for me....I cannot stop thinking about her;
LostOne1 Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 I've been nc for about a week, and the week before we only spoke once...long story short she left me for her ex but still has feelings for me--they clearly Are not as strong as her feelings for him, they had 3+ years together... I really want to break nc and just tell her I miss her--is that a horrible idea? I truly feel like she is the one for me....I cannot stop thinking about her; I wouldn't break NC. She might need space to see if her ex is a guy she wants or if she decided you are better. She will need the time to figure it out for herself. You forcing her will make her feel uneasy. 1
Calico Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 If she felt you were the one for her, she would be with you. She isn't, she went back to her ex. What would telling her that you miss her achieve? And what are the chances that she doesn't already know that? (Sorry.)
Mint Sauce Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 my 2 cent: as long as she feels torn between the two of you, she'll not make real progress in deciding who she wants to be with. I think the fastest way to get closer to a solution is to let her try again with her ex, without you in the picture, i.e. stay NC. If she sees that he is still not the one, she may finally appreciate you fully. Of course that's also a massively painful solution. sorry, whatever you do, you're in for a lot of pain, hang in there.
Mike_d Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 sure, you can do whatever you want. but it's 100% that you'll only worsen your situation. read up here, there are plenty who are in your exact shoes. find posts from Gibson or Breck to help get your head back on straight. weak, pleading, tearful interactions that totally give 100% of your power away are just gross. don't do it, have some self respect and acceptance. you've been fired from the position of boyfriend, man up and move along
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