DustyMan Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 (edited) Hi all. HELP!!!!!!!. To TRY to make a long story short, although it is difficult to do that.; Friends with ex for c.10 years. We 'got together' last year and were in a relationship, on and off, for c 1 year. More off than on. It got to the stage where she dumped me c. 4-5 times, and yes i know i should not have let that happen. She would dump me and after a while contact me- usually when she was drunk, this happened around 3-4 times. But being honest too I didn't let her go and did try to keep contact and change her mind. But she would'nt, not when sober anyway! When she'd contact me, drunk, she'd want me back and I'd go back to her. But she'd dump me again after a few days. It hurt so so much. I was so totally in love with her. In fact i preferred her in my life hurting me than not in my life. ;-( Many times she told me she wanted no more contact. I've went NC over the past few weeks but did send her a birthday card a few days ago, with just a simple message saying 'Happy birthday'. She never responded, no thank you etc. I'm hurt again. I treated her so well and with total respect when we were together. She even told me I was too good to her!! I think she might be seeing someone now too, just a feeling. Even though she gave me about 10 different reason why she didn't want to be in a relationship when she was dumping me all those times. Shes not a bad person at all, but she was confused about me/us. NOW I 'think' its over really over BUT to REALLY move on should I; 1. Block her number and or get a new phone number. 2. Block her emails and or close my account and get a new email. 3. Block her on Facebook and or delete my profile and or get out of Facebook totally or create a new profile? You see I keep thinking and hoping (to be honest) that maybe she'll change her mind and contact me I'm just wondering? In a way am I giving her more power by doing all this? i.e by totally blocking her from my life? What IF she MAYBE wanted to get back together down the line? and she wanted to contact me? Although she knows where I live (although I might be moving from that address soon). I guess she knows too that she can have me if she wants me, just a text, email or call and I'll go crawling back sad i know, but love makes us loose all sense or reason sometimes. The LAST time c 6-7 weeks she contacted me wanting me back she sent me several texts saying she wanted me back etc etc and called me too (she was drunk I found out after). Thinng was I was asleeq and my hone was on silent. The next morning I saw all the text etc and tried to contact her but she just ignored me. She was sober you see. ;-( I was so so angry with her and so so hurt and |I| let her know too. She said she was sorry, but she didnt want me back though. ;-( Now I often check my phone to see if there is a message from her and open my email to see if there is a message from her. But I've heard nothing now for a month or more. probably she has totally moved on. But I have not. Q.Can I only REALLY move on if I TOTALLY cut her from my life and without her having any chance of contacting me again and possibly hurting me again. But MAYBE she might want me back in the future? if we met and she realized she made a mistake after thinking about everything. Qeoqle do change. Should I totally cut her from my life?? Please advise, sorry to go on...... Edited September 25, 2012 by DustyMan
InJest Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 She's dumped you 5 times. When will you get it? 1
Author DustyMan Posted September 25, 2012 Author Posted September 25, 2012 (edited) I know ;-( BUT; 'NOW I 'think' its over really over BUT to REALLY move on should I; 1. Block her number and or get a new phone number. 2. Block her emails and or close my account and get a new email. 3. Block her on Facebook and or delete my profile and or get out of Facebook totally or create a new profile? I'm just wondering? In a way am I giving her more power by doing all this? i.e by totally blocking her from my life? Q.Can I only REALLY move on if I TOTALLY cut her from my life and without her having any chance of contacting me again and possibly hurting me again. But MAYBE she might want me back in the future? if we met and she realized she made a mistake after thinking about everything. Qeoqle do change.' Should I totally cut her from my life?? If I'm still foolishly thinking of getting back together!! Would cutting ALL contact helq me to move on? Edited September 25, 2012 by DustyMan
DC4 Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 You have to stop this immediately. There is no need to take on a whole new identity because of this person. Block her emails and block her on Facebook. Block her if you can on your phone. I have done this and here is the upside: you get to keep all your information but knowing she is blocked means there's no reason to furiously check emails/messages to see if she's reached out to you. Cutting ALL ties, every single last one is your last hope of getting out of this with your sanity and dignity. She doesn't want to be with you, I don't know how much more clear she could make it. MOVE ON, you don't deserve this crap.
Author DustyMan Posted September 25, 2012 Author Posted September 25, 2012 Moderator/s can you move this thread to 'Breaks/Breaking up', please. Thanking you.
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