budd98 Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 I recently broke up with my g/f after 2 years and 10 months. She is 22 and I am 24. We split up once before, last summer for 2 months. Before we broke it off then, we were fighting and arguing over every little things constantly. I was usually the one to make it right or give in on all of those situations. She is very stubborn. Anyways, she broke it off last summer and her reason was that she loved me but she wasn't IN love with me. She had fallen for another guy, in which they had been mailing eath other letters back and fourth every week. So when I heard the news of breaking up then, I was completely shocked and devastated. We ended up being apart for 2 months and I was starting to finally move on. Then one night she calls me to just talk and meet up. I did and she told me that she slept with another guy and that she missed me because nobody even compared to how I am. So we agreed to try again and try to start over and leave the passed behind us. We then dated for 10 months and things seemed to be going better. Everyone would say we are too cute together and that we looked so happy. Then within these past few weeks I caught her lieing to me. She met a guy by her cabin and they hung out when we were fighting. I found out about this a week after the fact and confronted her about it when she said that she has lost the spark feeling for me. She looked shocked when I asked her about it and we then got into deep talk. This guys has a g/f of 6 months and she said that he is just a friend. She then said that we are heading into different directions and that she can't see us working out. Plus she said that she can't forgive herself for what she has done to me when we broke up the year before. Everything was hard for me too but I was willing to get over it. After we talked, I asked her out on a date for the next day to see if we still have feelings for each other. So we went to a movie, dinner, I bought her flowers, and then hung out at the fair for the night. She said she wanted to try and work things out. Everything seemed perfect again. Then the morning after she asked to have sex. We did and then went for lunch. She wanted to talk about us again and was right back to the same old "we just aren't going to work out" stage. I had to head out of town for work that weekend and she told me she loved me and that we could talk on the phone that night. We talked and it was the same old, I love you, miss you, but it was still different. That was 9 days ago and we have'nt talked on the phone or made any other communications since then. We never officially said lets end it, but I don't understand how she can just not call for this long. We have never done this before. Is she just trying to not contact so she can try and forget and move on? She has told me that I am perfect and that she is scared that she might never find someone as great as me. All of her g/f's would love to date me, so I know they like me. I just don't understand how she can just be so cold and show no care. Maybe I was too caring and made it too easy because she wanted me most when I didn't want her as badly. I just want to know what might be running through her head because I miss her and I do love her. Or maybe I should move on for good and see if there is someone better for me. Any advice for me would help!
wolvie666 Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 I honestly can't tell you what she's thinking. All I can say is young women are friggin crazy. I'm going through something pretty bad with my ex-fiance, she's dating this other guy but has messed with my head by saying stuff like; "I know that you're the one I want to be with," "He'll never treat me as good as you did," "I'll never find somebody else like you," etc. All her friends think she is crazy for dumping me and think that the guy she is with now is a complete loser. She herself even reffered to it as "the seven year itch" when talking to her mom. Everybody always thought we were a perfect couple. It sucks man, but I guess you've been down this road before with this girl. Just keep your head up and if it's meant to be you'll find your way back to each other. That's the attitude I'm trying to take right now anyway. I've finally realized that I gotta play it tough and let her see that I'm just fine without her and am perfectly capable of moving on. But it all depends on how you feel inside. If you think it's worth it or not. If you don't think it is than call her and tell her you're tired of the games and need to move on and do your own thing. Me, I still have hope that we will patch things up and she will snap out of whatever the hell she is going through. I think I can forgive her and get over the fact that she's slept with this other guy (we technically weren't together anymore) if I feel like she is genuinely sorry and will never do it again. Whatever she has with this guy is completely skin deep and what we had was so much more. Maybe your girl is testing you or something... I don't know... women's minds are so complicated it's hard to say, but you can't let her ruin your life. I know I haven't helped at all, but just know you aren't alone in your frustration. I'll say it again. Women are nuts.
mronederful Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 she's having her cake and eating it too. every time you get sad thinking about her, just think of her with her legs spread apart for that other guy. it gets a whole lot easier that way. and quick too. move on dude for your own sake. could you honestly get past all that? why not start fresh wth someone else
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