lostindeed Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 well first let me thank all that have responded to my plea for advice in my time of need. After a long weekend of thinking about her I did not call her but I did this morning, the last time we spoke was friday. I made the call exactly 2 minutes and made it short. She asked me why I did I not call her the whole weekend and that she was waiting for me to call her last night. I told her that I went to a dinner and a movie and did not get home till late. Then I told her that my time was short and I had a busy schedule for today and I had to let her go and that I would see her tomorrow. She sounded happy that I called but should I initiate no contact for this following week(while she takes her break from me) or should I talk to her. Please I am so lost help me out here THANK YOU AGAIN
Olivia_19742004 Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 Did she say to give her a call when you were talking on the phone? Did she say she'd call you some time next week? Did you suggest she call you later in the week and let you know how she's doing?
Author lostindeed Posted July 26, 2004 Author Posted July 26, 2004 She had asked me to call her this past weekend and I did only once for 2 minutes. I did not suggest that she call me or any thing like that, infact we just finish having sex and I am so freaking confused because she says she loves me with her heart and soul and wants to be with me but needs some space, time to herself she calls it. So I wonder if I am setting myself for heartbreak city or a wonderful life, you know. It is so confusing when she tells me these things and still needs her space. Any input would be really nice from anyone with a opinion (good or bad) out there Thanks again in advance!!
Olivia_19742004 Posted July 27, 2004 Posted July 27, 2004 If she wants space then give her space and that means stop having sex with her. You're having a relationship without the obligation. Just doesn't seem right to me. You are emotionally invested in it and she knows this. I think everyone has a right to their private space but they need to be considerate to the other persons feelings as well and I don't see her taking into consideration how confusing this could be to you. You need to clarify why she needs space, what she hopes to obtain from it and what exactly constitutes as giving her space. Seems like you have a lot of gray area on what exactly the two of you are doing.
Author lostindeed Posted August 1, 2004 Author Posted August 1, 2004 Thank you for your good advice and questions to help clarify this matter for me.
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