Capucine Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 Do men mean each word that comes out of their mouths? When a man tells you that you need to be done romantically and that he's out of love with you, is it really the end? He says he still cares. That he wants to be friends. I don't want to be friends. I can't be around and watch him date people. I'm in NC. Is there hope that things may change? Can he regret his decision? Is it possible that he changes his mind? Can you throw 3 years of affection away that easily? *sighs* I wish..
geegirl Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 Do men mean each word that comes out of their mouths? Actions not words. When a man tells you that you need to be done romantically and that he's out of love with you, is it really the end? Yes. He says he still cares. That he wants to be friends. Cares enough to only be friends and nothing more. Be careful of getting in the "friend" box. Most dumpers do that with motive. I don't want to be friends. I can't be around and watch him date people. I'm in NC. Good. Is there hope that things may change? Can he regret his decision? Is it possible that he changes his mind? No one can say so it's best to work with what you have been presented, which is he does not want to be with you anymore. Stay NC. Can you throw 3 years of affection away that easily? Yes, it happens all the time when the other checks out for whatever reason. Relationships end and even marriages. Nothing is ever a guarantee. 1
TaraMaiden Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 Do men mean each word that comes out of their mouths? When a man tells you that you need to be done romantically and that he's out of love with you, is it really the end? He says he still cares. That he wants to be friends. I don't want to be friends. I can't be around and watch him date people. I'm in NC. Is there hope that things may change? Can he regret his decision? Is it possible that he changes his mind? Can you throw 3 years of affection away that easily? *sighs* I wish.. Caring and being friends doesn't mean he still loves you. But it's a really, really bad idea. It's an attempt to "soften the blow" and make himself feel better. Not you - him. You can't be friends with him. His wanting to be friends, is guilt-friendship. If you stay friends, that means he's doing something good, and kind, and generous, and if you're his buddy, then you're comfortable with that, right....? Right...? Wrong. Read the "All New Caliguy No Contact Guide" in my signature. That tells you everything you need to know. And don't forget the old adage: Actions speak louder than words." He's walked. No amount of 'let's be friends' will ever change that.
Calico Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 Can you throw 3 years of affection away that easily? My girlfriend did, and she didn't even need to be a man to do all the things you've mentioned. 1
TopCat22 Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 People change their minds all the time. Time and circumstances alter the way people look at things. What you need to know is that it's over for now. Is it over for good? Who can tell? We can't predict the future. All you can do is give him time and space and work on yourself. Be the best that you can be.
leshellecollins Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 my ex is beginning to think im psycho cause i havent tried the no contact he has my grandpas ashes and he says he looked but y should i believe him when i cant believe nothing he say so i show up at his house and txt him to get him back and he said im going to be a few family members short. can he change his mind about me and want me again when he thinks im crazy and after the break up i made myself look like a fool!!
leshellecollins Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 my ex is beginning to think im psycho cause i havent tried the no contact he has my grandpas ashes and he says he looked but y should i believe him when i cant believe nothing he say so i show up at his house and txt him to get him back and he said im going to be a few family members short. can he change his mind about me and want me again when he thinks im crazy and after the break up i made myself look like a fool!! Share
eleve82 Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 Yeah, it can all happen. My ex more or less said the same thing after 5 years and wants to be "friends". Will your ex regret it? Only time will tell. Keep your chin up, and take heart.
Svet74 Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 yes he means it. Right now.. SO right now its over. will he regret it or try to come back? Maybe. And when he does or if.. if you still love him back then maybe you guys will get back together Or you might be moved on with someone new let him go and no dont be friends. He only wants to for control and backup
Author Capucine Posted September 26, 2012 Author Posted September 26, 2012 I'm still on his FB page. His status still says "in a relationship" with me. It's just been a week since he dumped me, and he's there friending girls like crazy, liking their pictures and commenting on them. Is he doing this on purpose? Does he want to hurt me? or get a reaction out of me? Or may be I am imagining things because I'm still not over me? May be he's just moving on and does not give a damn about me anymore. That must be it...he's moving on..I feel so miserable. I want my life back..I want my power back..I feel like he sucked all my soul and my emotions out of me...God I hate him..I want him to be miserable..
amaysngrace Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 Stop checking his FB. Unfriend him. Immediately. 1
JustALittleBit Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 Power back = block or delete. Good byeeee you say!
todreaminblue Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 Do men mean each word that comes out of their mouths? When a man tells you that you need to be done romantically and that he's out of love with you, is it really the end? He says he still cares. That he wants to be friends. I don't want to be friends. I can't be around and watch him date people. I'm in NC. Is there hope that things may change? Can he regret his decision? Is it possible that he changes his mind? Can you throw 3 years of affection away that easily? *sighs* I wish.. pretty much i would believe someone when they said its over i am not in love with you when they take it back and say the miss you, don't believe that one....thats pure nostalgia or physical in nature....let the guy go......you will only benefit from having extra time to spend with some one who appreciates you better and is ....REALLY IN LOVE with you.....good luck best wishes.....deb
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