DarkwinDuck Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 I don't want to break up with my girlfriend of 6 months. But in June she'll be leaving to Australia for a year. It's something she always wanted to do, so I support that decision. However, I'm investing a lot of time and emotions in our relationship. I'm worried that being together for a year isn't enough to sustain this relationship. I think I rather break-up with her now than having to go through unnecessary heartache when she’s gone. She's a beautiful girl. I know a lot of guys would love to give her a tour and take her to all the magical places Australia has to offer. I can't possibly beat that. I've work and other responsibilities to take care of. What do you guys think I should do? Can this work?
DC4 Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 I married my LDR who coincidentally is from Australia. It most definitely can work but it is DIFFICULT. If you're not up for it, you're right-don't put yourself through the agony. Do you have to decide right now? Can you see how it goes for a couple of months?
loveunlimited Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 I don't want to break up with my girlfriend of 6 months. But in June she'll be leaving to Australia for a year. It's something she always wanted to do, so I support that decision. ... What do you guys think I should do? Can this work?I hate to sound like mrs obvious but have you discussed this with her? relationships are ongoing things and need to be looked after because they are constantly changing, why don't you take it a bit at a time and see where this takes you both?
Leigh 87 Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 After a year, you would know if the person was worth compromising for. And I could not handle not seeing me partner for a whole year....We are far too attached to be apart from one another for that long, if it can be helped! That is not to say you do not have something very special; please, I am not undermining your relationship. She may think you will be together forever in her mind. I have no idea what she really thinks. I just know that if she was extremely, badly, crazily attached to you and 120% in love, that she would not be able to leave you for a year. It would be too painful to be without you for that long. And for the record: my own partner fell in love with a girl he was really into; after travelling together for about 4 months they parted ways. Even though they were in love. So it seldom works long distance unless your: - in love - and have already made a long term committment to be together for life, or you have the intention to and strongly want to be together for life My partner and that girl just had love; it had not evolved to the committment stage, or a stage where they just had to be together for life.
Author DarkwinDuck Posted September 25, 2012 Author Posted September 25, 2012 I have talked with her about this. She says I shouldn’t worry. It may or may not work out. We both want this to work, but it's going to be difficult. Three years ago I had a bad break-up, so I guess I’m still a bit cautious and I want to protect myself from going through a lot of heartache again. One year of knowing each other and one year apart. Is there anything we can do to make this work? I want to be prepared.
Author DarkwinDuck Posted September 25, 2012 Author Posted September 25, 2012 After a year, you would know if the person was worth compromising for. And I could not handle not seeing me partner for a whole year....We are far too attached to be apart from one another for that long, if it can be helped! That is not to say you do not have something very special; please, I am not undermining your relationship. She may think you will be together forever in her mind. I have no idea what she really thinks. I just know that if she was extremely, badly, crazily attached to you and 120% in love, that she would not be able to leave you for a year. It would be too painful to be without you for that long. And for the record: my own partner fell in love with a girl he was really into; after travelling together for about 4 months they parted ways. Even though they were in love. So it seldom works long distance unless your: - in love - and have already made a long term committment to be together for life, or you have the intention to and strongly want to be together for life My partner and that girl just had love; it had not evolved to the committment stage, or a stage where they just had to be together for life. I have thought about that as well. I wouldn't want to go either. But I can't speak for her. My girlfriend is very clingy. She always wants to see me, always misses me, always wants to hold me and touch me in any way possible. But I do wonder why she still feels the need to do this. She's taking the risk of losing me by going to Australia. What does that tell me? But it's something she's been planning for years now. I don't want her to give up her dreams.
LittlePrince Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 I don't want to break up with my girlfriend of 6 months. But in June she'll be leaving to Australia for a year. It's something she always wanted to do, so I support that decision. However, I'm investing a lot of time and emotions in our relationship. I'm worried that being together for a year isn't enough to sustain this relationship. I think I rather break-up with her now than having to go through unnecessary heartache when she’s gone. She's a beautiful girl. I know a lot of guys would love to give her a tour and take her to all the magical places Australia has to offer. I can't possibly beat that. I've work and other responsibilities to take care of. What do you guys think I should do? Can this work? It can work if you can accept her having sex with other men you'll never know about.
Author DarkwinDuck Posted September 25, 2012 Author Posted September 25, 2012 (edited) It can work if you can accept her having sex with other men you'll never know about. She's still a virgin at age 20. It's important to her to share sex with someone she really cares about. She's very vulnerable to sweet talk though. A guy like me; working 40 hours a week, not always available, can't afford a lot of vacations or fancy dinners. Or a tanned cool surfer guy from Australia; spontaneous, adventurous, time to kill, able to show her all the great new places, feeling naughty and excitable. It doesn't feel right. Edited September 25, 2012 by DarkwinDuck
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