Idk what to do Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 (edited) My ex and I were together for about a year, Everything was perfict. We really loved each other. She is kinda insecure because every single one of her ex's cheated on her, so she always needs to be told how beautiful she is. Even tho I think she is perfict. We were about to start college together and at the last minute I got offered a baseball scholarship 4 hours away. I thought it would be easy, because I came home every weekend. But when I left the insecurity came up, because she feels like I lift her, and she thinks she isn't important to me. Every time we talk on the phone, or on skype she would cry because she missed me and she thinks I left her and she's not good enough. We ended up braking up, and the next day I found out that she had been messing around with her ex that is a low life that has cheated on her, and she is now with him. She has cheated on 2 or 3 of her boyfriends, but that's was a long time before we were together, and I know her two boyfriends she had before me, and I know she didn't cheat on them. So I think she couldn't handle me leaving, like she said she couldn't. When I found out I said some really mean things. I know I'm only 19, but I was goin to use what ever money I got over the next year to buy her an engagement ring, that's how stongly I feel about her. If I could get her back I would never leave her again. All this happened 2 weeks ago, and I haven't talk to her since. But I don't stop thinking about her, I can't eat or sleep. That may sound like a whimp, but that's the way I feel. I know I couldn't get her back during the year because she wouldn't put her self threw that. I wanna know if I should try to contact her and have some sort of relationship till the summer, and make her believe that I would never leave her again, or the alternative is just say she is a cheater and move on? Idk if I can do that, nor do I want to do that. idk what todo Edited September 25, 2012 by Idk what to do Messed up
ashtree-house Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 That sounds like a pretty messy situation in my opinion. Sure she has self esteem issues, but you can't hold back your potential to fuel these issues. You deserve that scholarship, and she should be supporting. She also seems to be in a circle of cheating and being cheated on. I think you'd did better without, as hard as it is to take.
Author Idk what to do Posted September 25, 2012 Author Posted September 25, 2012 I'm not sure if it matters, but as far as the whole baseball potential thing, I wasn't planing on come back here anyway.
Tiera D Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 Once a cheater always a cheater <---very true you should have leave her permanently,she went back to an ex you described as a low life,shows how "adapted" she is in finding a relationship material,unless you could stand the fact that she might cheat on you in future again and again i recommend you end this permanently,imagine if you are engaged or wedded and such thing happens?what to do? TD
Author Idk what to do Posted September 25, 2012 Author Posted September 25, 2012 Thank you for y'alls advice
Author Idk what to do Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 So idk how this website works, so idk if this will show up at the top of the list and anyone will see it. But 3 days ago my ex called me, and we talked for about 30 minutes about everything that had happend, and how she is selfish for trying to replace me because I left, and how she could never replace what we had, and then I had to go to class, when I got out of class she called and said she was on the way to come see me. She stayed for three days, and over that time we talked about everything, and she was goin threw the samething that I was as far as not eating or sleeping, and it may have been worse then me. We even talked about stuff in our relationship before I left. I know y'all said I should let her go, but after that I know we really do love each other, and I knew I had to give her another chance. She knows that she has to earn my trust back, so that is my question. How do I go about making her earn my trust?
Tiera D Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 since u wont listen to us..well il give the answer to your questions since u chose this path.. Want her to prove?Simple,tell her to give you time reconsider the possibility in being together,make it sound sincere,then drag the test as long as possible until you believe she is trustworthy,she leaves and gives up within 1 -2 weeks means shes not sincere at all. past 2-3 weeks shes still there means you will know it when the time comes TD
salem mark Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 dont be fool and marry this girl, your young and you will make a huge mistake that will affect you for a long time, there will be others who will never cheat, she sounds like she too much baggage, Do u want to carry her heavy weight/luggage?
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