Esp0125 Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 Hello Everyone, I have only posted a few things to this website so I would really appreciate the feedback. Here is the story I am 32 years old and my wife and I split up a little over a year ago, the split has 0 drama and we have no hatred to one another we were married 5 years and although I was willing to give it another try to work it out it just wasn't in the cards. That being said our divorce will actually be final in about another week-10 days. Reason being is that we had investments that had to mature before divorce nothing to do with dragging our feet. Also there were no children involved. Ok so I waiting about 5-6 months to start dating again and I went through my hook up phase and a couple of rebound flings. About 2 months ago which was about a year after my ex and I decided to call it quits I wanted to get involved again with a real relationship. So I signed on to a real dating website not for hooking up for finding a relationship. About a week later I met this amazing woman she is 35. Her story is that she was in a 10 year relationship and was engaged, but there was abuse for the last 2 years and lying so she called it quits about 4 years ago. So we have been hanging out for the last 5 weeks about 2-3 times a week after the first time we hung out we talk every day and text each other throughout the day. Things are going great we really like each other but she admitted something to me a few weeks back that she never thought she would get involved with someone who was divorced because she didn't want to feel like the other person has done all this before but then she jokes and says shes 35 and not everything is perfect. I think this girl is amazing she is me in the woman form. We can break each others chops she is just as sarcastic as I am which is amazing and we have been just getting along great. My real question and I want to know if this is normal is that she wont give this a title until my divorce is final. I guess I just know how I am, her reasoning is that she doesn't want to get attached and what if this process is delayed by my ex. I tell her me and my ex get a long and she doesn't want to delay this either. She said she has been burned before and would rather not get burned again. But she says she trusts me fully. She also said that she has been reserved and always makes jokes that when my "situation" is finalized we can see where this can go. I just wanted a womans perspective on this because I really like this girl, I went out with a lot of woman this past year and 2 months and this is the only one I can see myself getting involved with. She is genuine and just great. Well thats it please let me know what you think.
DC4 Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 If the divorce is final in 7-10 days, I'm not sure what the problem is. You two can't wait a week? Many women have been burned by the never ending break (including me) up so I get how she feels about getting involved but seriously, SEVEN DAYS. Both of you just cool your jets. You can call her girlfriend in a week.
Author Esp0125 Posted September 25, 2012 Author Posted September 25, 2012 My Apologies in 7-10 days I will have the court date to make it official which can be a week or 2 later. I just truly want her to know that I wont burn her, but she is so hung up on the fact that right now I am "technically" not available. So I tell her the only thing that is making me not available is the paper The feelings are what matters, well at least to me. I know it may sound stupid but I really feel like I found and amazing person.
DC4 Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 It'll be fine. That's hardly any time at all.
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