Sameold Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 If you broke up in a bad way and you know to some degree another person was involved and they are now with your ex it must be hard if you see them. I am strict NC but even so if I happened to see them together now I would feel like beating the crap out of the guy and saying something to the ex. For me it doesnt matter that she didn't cheat, she emotionally started flirting and setting things up as she had time to plan our BU without me having a clue it was on the horizon. It is easy to say I would just walk on but would that not make you look weak? I know violence isn't the real answer but....
ponette Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 why do we always focus our anger on the 'other' person? unless we know the ex's new partner, our focus should remain on the ex. this new guy or girl doesn't know you, but your ex DOES. they're the one we have got the beef with. lowering yourself to some emotional display in front of the two of them would be the worst thing you could do, and they'll bond over it. if you have the misfortune of running in to them someplace, hold your head high and pass them by. don't give them the satisfaction, and you will feel good having control in the situation. yes, it's an awful feeling, but you're worth so much more than that. 1
yoman38 Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 lol you realize beating that guy up would be battery and you would go to jail and probably end up with a restraining order with your ex. Not to mention that's not something that would ever be dropped from your record it follow you around for the rest of your life. So let me ask you something is some girl who left you and some other guy worth all those consequences, and violence is never the answer beating someone up is wrong period. hold your head up high man you're better then that and move on
mvc Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 i would take great privilage in ignoring them. says to the ex they mean nothing to you anymore
LostOne1 Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 I agree. I felt the same I wish I could see my ex's new guy and kick his ass in. Sure the assole knew I was with her for 3 yrs. But he should also know it's not right to force a girl when shes vulnerable. At the same time if a girl respects love and her guy.. then no matter how vulnerable or mad or sad she is.. she would not pass those boundaries. She should KNOW better and know her values. I hate how my ex says she has good family values, yet shes talking about this guy non stop during our fight. It just shows her true character and im glad I saw it now, then to marry her and suffer for the rest of my life. On top of that watch my family know im miserable and stuck with a cold hearted woman. Personally channeling the anger at the ex is better than their partner. The EX should KNOW better. And think of it this way if the ex can do this to us, what makes the new partner so sure that the ex won't do the exact same thing and find someone else later. If someone can do one thing, they are bound to do it again. It shows true character and how someone really is.... good or bad 1
Simon Phoenix Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 While seeing her with another guy sucks, I don't get mad at the other guy. It's not his job to cater to my feelings. In a cheating situation, it's up to the ex not to cheat. In a non-cheating situation, it might be better to have her date a guy or two if you want to get her back -- a couple of douchebags and all of a sudden you look good again. Then again, she meets prince charming and you become the douchebag. It's a roll of the dice.
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