nowwhatnow Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 so I really like this guy and we met up once and it was great and I am trying to meet up with him again but he is so shy I doubt he is going to make a move... Also, since he is shy I cant decide if he likes me and is just nervous or what advice?
suladas Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 Make a move to get him to know you're interested. It's tough to tell if a women is interested and being shy makes it worse because of fear of rejection.
TG1 Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 I say what do you have to lose, make a move on him because I am sure he probably feels the same way about you and if I am right and he does, then be the one to make the first move
CptObvious Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 Since you're the one with the vagina, I'd have to bet that he likes you. Go get him.
mortensorchid Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 He might like you, but I would forget it. If he is shy about making a move, he will be shy about other things further down the road and feel like he is being commanded by a woman. Is he shy about doing other things like his job or interests? I'm guessing not. Just keep it in mind. 1
IndyT Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Shy vs. Inexperienced is a question to ask. It is prob a mix of both, but if he is shy, he won't no what to do, you'll need to either make some moves or make some very suggestive statements that would show him you would go along if he asked you out. And once, he gets comfortable, he will open up to you.
ScreamingTrees Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Personally, I can be "shy" around strangers - or simply reserved and indifferent, I'm often unsure of which it is myself. Personally, I'd open up and feel much less intimidated if a girl were to make her attraction known.. This has been my past experience and I've easily "taken the reign" when faced with such a scenario. Of course, I don't speak for every "quiet" guy like that. Other guys may be timid and difficult to break through to. Who knows. 1
suladas Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 I was both not too long ago, and she had to initiate most things the first time (but honestly she was not good at flirting to give me signs and moved really fast). It doesn't mean you will control the relationship, it's just a lot of people are shy until they get to know someone. 1
suladas Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Personally, I can be "shy" around strangers - or simply reserved and indifferent, I'm often unsure of which it is myself. Personally, I'd open up and feel much less intimidated if a girl were to make her attraction known.. This has been my past experience and I've easily "taken the reign" when faced with such a scenario. Of course, I don't speak for every "quiet" guy like that. Other guys may be timid and difficult to break through to. Who knows. Everyone's different, but for me I didn't make the first move because I wasn't sure if she was interested until she just finally asked me out. Once she made it official I completely planned to make a move and the only reason I didn't was because she made it before I could. Most guys I think don't make a move because they are not sure if the women is interested or not. And the other part was just lack of experience, so I wasn't good at it, and really uncomfortable making the first move. If you like him and aren't shy, asking him out and then making the move on him, is HOT.
Author nowwhatnow Posted September 27, 2012 Author Posted September 27, 2012 i guess the problem is i too am shy...so i am really looking for signs he likes me and it is hard to know. but last time i suggested hanging out he was the one who said lets for coffee and picked the shop so who knows. do you think if i suggest going for a beer he would go for it? do you think he would know i liked him? i am really nervous because i was in a long term relationship a couple years back and this is the first guy i have really liked since my ex. so i just dont want to screw this up by trying to get him to move too quickly. i don't know if i am shy or just scared!
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