joystickd Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 I see a lot of bitter people in regards to dating. They have so much animosity towards the opposite sex. Hell I see some that are in denial about their own bitterness. They say I'm bitter, but it doesn't affect me because I have no real problems with dating. My question is has what you have done translated into a real long term relationship. It shows in ways you wouldn't think. Some of the beliefs formed about dating have origins in bitterness sometimes. Claiming all men push for sex early on because you have had bad experiences where that has happened or men being friendzoned because they were too nice lead men to think women like jerks. When it comes to bitterness sometimes towards the opposite sex some of the blame belongs to the person you see in the mirror. That is right YOU!. We let experiences affect us to the point that we sometimes punish the new person in our life for the sins of the person before and sometimes its done in subtle ways that eventually cause all of us to have problems interacting with the opposite sex. Like me for example I got hurt really bad by someone. I still sometimes deal with it because the crazy b**ch tries to talk bad about me to women she finds out I'm talking too. It affects me in my interactions with other women and I'm not ashamed to admit it. I am hard man to get to invest emotionally. The difference with me is I am taking steps to work on that. I also understand that on some level I was responsible for everything that happened because I chose the person and I stayed around even when there were signs it was going downhill because of beliefs I had that had overwhelming evidence of the opposite. I was so caught up in the negativity that I could see that what I had believed was wrong. What exactly are you doing to deal with your bitterness? Why do you still hold on to negative beliefs even when there is evidence of the opposite?
Anela Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 I have dealt with bitterness over the past couple of years, but it's eased a great deal this year. Also,a lot of wariness and some bitterness in the past. I always look at myself, and my own experiences and beliefs, my own actions. I've been known to take too much of the blame in the past, and not just around dating (or the lack of it, where I'm concerned). What exactly are you doing to deal with your bitterness? A few things. Why do you still hold on to negative beliefs even when there is evidence of the opposite? The more evidence there is of the opposite, the less the negative beliefs linger. The roots are still there, but they don't have oxygen and room to grow.
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